A few months ago I lost the most attractive girl I had ever seen because I was too indecisive when setting up the 1st date, dragged it out for too long, then we had a lockdown and she never replied to me again.

I know I put too much thought into it e.g.

Trying to find somewhere that's not too far for them but not too far from my place so we can head back if there are some sparks.

Trying to avoid boring date ideas but also trying to avoid activities because in my experience they sound fun but end up being expensive and possibly shit if you don't really connect.

Not wanting it to sound seedy by suggesting to get a drink near my place (especially since I'm looking for something longer term) but not wanting it to seem as though we're just friends hanging out at the park either.

Not sure if I should involve them in the planning process or just suggest a time and place.