Need help with oneitis

_TurnuptheSun_ · 2017-06-02T21:57:13+00:00

It's perfectly fine to find yourself attracted to only one girl, so long as you actually plan to seduce her, you're only sixteen, so it's a natural thing to get a little attached. However, do not let this stifle your overall development. By all means chase this girl, but be okay with it if she doesn't like you back.

Oneitis is usually a symptom of feeling like you're not enough You're projecting a lot emotionally onto girls because you're afraid you can't get others. News flash: you absolutely can, you just need to practice talking to them.

Go out and meet as many girls as possible. My challenge for you is to go out and talk to one girl you don't know a day for a month. Doesn't matter if she's hot, just get into the habit of striking up conversations with girls. It'll suck at first, but it will break you out of your confort zone and hone your flirting skills, increasing your options over time. Again just focus on the process of talking to girls, don't worry too much about the outcome starting out; results come with time and persistence. Here's a video that will give you some pointers about approaching cold: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9mmf8lXP6nw The basic premise is that by meeting and ultimately sleeping with more girls, your less likely to get fixated on one, because you'll have an abundance mindset. Try that challenge and I guarantee you'll start to see results. You're young, you have time on your side.

luaudesign · 2017-06-02T22:49:29+00:00

People say to get over it by meeting other women but I don't think I am capable of actually doing that

Yes, you can.

chaldeanrefuge · 2017-06-02T21:47:16+00:00

Why do you have to get over it? Can you get together with her?

datingcoachonwheels · 2017-06-03T06:21:22+00:00

I WISH someone had told me this when I was younger, so I made you a video reply: https://youtu.be/Fif9_qWNA9U

Let me know what you decide to do!

abstractpickupartist · 2017-06-03T20:33:11+00:00

People say to get over it by meeting other women

Good, now you know the answer.

but I don't think I am capable of actually doing that

No, you don't want to. That's it.

The "can't" is coming from the whiny, special snowflake who doesn't want to do anything hard. The part of you that wants to spend the rest of your life watching anime and hugging a pillow.

Go do it, or be miserable. The choice is yours, and don't for a minute pretend it isn't.

Title	Need help with oneitis
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Date	June 2, 2017 9:25 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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