I have a terrible mindset that actually helps me in some way, but I still feel is very detrimental to the way I think.

So basically, I can be very comfortable talking to women (platonically, friendly, but never really romantically or tease/flirting wise), and the way I can do that is by thinking I have no chance with this girl that I’m talking to. This in turn helps take off all the burden of trying to get the girl to like me and find me a potential partner.

I’ve done this with every single women I have met in the last few years and it’s helped me immensely because I can talk to a girl with no problem at all, but it creates such an immense mental block to the point that I don’t even try with girls these days.

I havent been getting shit these days anyways because I get no dates at, nor have I ever been on a first date or hooked up at all, so this is better than literally nothing anyways. But I need to switch my “frame” and really make a change in 2025 so I don’t feel like that anymore. (I’m about to be 30 in two months btw so anything is appreciated)