New to a community college, need help.

seduction-ModTeam · 2024-05-28T20:53:35+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

hunterpua · 2024-05-28T20:07:44+00:00

It sounds like you're not naturally good with women, you've got pretty bad nerves around talking to them, and you've never approached them before but now you're placing massive expectations on yourself.

What did you expect from the responses here? People here telling you a bunch of flowery words that make you feel awesome about yourself as you read them but do fuck-all for your nerves when you're actually out there seeing the women you could talk to?

If going around saying hi to people is too hard for you then you have 2 options, bite the bullet and do it anyway while you suffer through nervousness and cringing at yourself or if you don't want to do it because its too hard and you want something easier, lower your expectations.

Instead of making connections and getting laid, aim for just one connection and maybe one date.

That's really how this goes man.

If you have the mental and emotional blocks that you're having and you haven't done anything proactively prior to arriving at this college to address those things then you either have to do things that are really hard for you or you have to have more realistic expectations that better match your ability to charm and arouse women, where you're at mentally, and what you're willing to do.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-05-28T19:25:59+00:00

Reps. Walk up to random people, say "Hi", talk about something, move on. Repeat.

DaygameCode · 2024-05-28T20:32:24+00:00

The first tu ung to fix is your mindset. Because in order to get laid with women:

You need to speak as if you are completely and utterly sure that you are the bomb and that meeting people like this is the most normal acceptable thing in the world no matter what she may think.
To have the absolute certainty that your approaches are always super welcomed and desired.
Ans assume familiarity from the get go by talking immediately with a tone that suggests you are almost long time friends who haven’t seen each other for a while and are so happy to see them again.

That attitude requires absolute confidence and high energy to pull off, but once you do it, you will see how great everyone will respond.

I’m not saying that they will all be interested in dating you, but at least they will all be happy or feel good about the way you approached them which is way more important.

But if you go there thinking, OMG, they are going to think this is weird, they are going to say, "Who are you?" with a disapproving tone, and I’m just interrupting them, which will annoy them, then your worst fears will come true. You will not approach her at all, or if you do, it will be a disaster because of how your internal belief makes you behave.

DaygameCode · 2024-05-28T20:35:38+00:00

The first thing to fix is your mindset. Because in order to get laid with women:

You need to speak as if you are completely and utterly sure that you are the bomb and that meeting people like this is the most normal acceptable thing in the world no matter what she may think.
To have the absolute certainty that your approaches are always super welcomed and desired.
Ans assume familiarity from the get go by talking immediately with a tone that suggests you are almost long time friends who haven’t seen each other for a while and are so happy to see them again.

That attitude requires absolute confidence and high energy to pull off, but once you do it, you will see how great everyone will respond.

I’m not saying that they will all be interested in dating you, but at least they will all be happy or feel good about the way you approached them which is way more important.

But if you go there thinking, OMG, they are going to think this is weird, they are going to say, "Who are you?" with a disapproving tone, and “I’m just interrupting them, which will annoy them”, then your worst fears will come true. You will not approach her at all, or if you do, it will be a disaster because of how your internal beliefs makes you behave.

Title	New to a community college, need help.
Author	DiscombobulatedAsk66
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	May 28, 2024 7:05 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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