Need your help fellas or what's going on.

It's been a couple dates where everything goes good have a load of fun and usually able to score etc.

For Contexts: Usually drinking, having fun, laughing, touching/making out, leads to sex. However,

By the next day shit gets cold and leads to nowhere or slow replies etc eventually dieing out.

Note: Not trying to sound egotistical but im sure this isn't a bedroom thing either

I feel like the fun persona im used to only works if you're looking for something short term to get laid or whatever. I'm getting older and im trying to find something more stable but that's also all I know that's the way i've always dated/ran things.

It almost makes me think/feel that I give off this fuckboy persona which is slightly true however I do also have my shit semi together, so I don't know if I'm just not being taken serious etc...

  1. Am I overthinking this? (The girl just didn't like me for future and wanted to have fun that night etc.. or
  2. If I'm not overthinking how should the frame/contexts of the dates be if I'm looking for something more stable.

Maybe I need to slow down and take things slower in dates? Any input is appreciated just trying to widen the horizon.