non gamey pickup

kalolilo · 2016-12-17T12:09:50+00:00

Haha, yeah spin her in the kitchen. ;)

Jokes aside, in normal situations, your maximum game is to

have a good conversation
good qualification
some assertiveness for fun
playfulness

Those 4, are your solid foundation for this. As you can see, there is no flirting at all her, no man to woman, as it would make it weird. Your goal here is to qualify her smoothly, see if she is interesting to you, not the other way around. Buyers vs. sellers mentality.

As soon, as you get some IOIs, then you can start normal game with kino, a bit push and pull.

IWriteForGroupies · 2016-12-17T12:08:55+00:00

i've read is about being silly and fun, giving stupid answers to their questions, saying random shit, flirting heavily, lots of kino, grabbing them to dance with me etc.

What have you been reading?

pen directly, and go for the number. Since you are APPROACHING them, it's like flirting is almost implied and so it feels kind of natural.

This is not always implied. People don't know why you approach them. They can only guess.

BUT I find that when i'm in a non 'gamey' situation, I kind of feel lost as to how to 'game' her / build attraction etc.

Game is not about finding a situation. It is more about making a situation. If you wait on the perfect moment, it will almost never happen.

For example, My little brother has a really hot music tutor who comes over, and I don't really know what to do/say to her. I don't have any kind of blueprint in my brain.

You need to tailor the situation to get an outcome. You have to make the situation. You cannot wait until it is right.

Like, if she asked me what I do and I said something like ''astronaut' or something, she'd think I was odd, but for some reason the silly answers get a positive result during nightgame.

I think you have been reading the wrong books or too many books. You need to be yourself and change what is necessary. I feel like you have been learning a scam or tricks to get women. Being more natural has better results.

It would also be kind of uncalibrated to be grabbing her and spinning her around and shit in my kitchen, but OK in a club!

Okay the more you talk the more I understand. Do you even understand why most of the stuff you read works. Better yet, do you understand when you should use it. Applying technique without understanding can be very dangerous. Most stuff is situational and these techniques are done for a reason at a certain time, place and environment.

What's the solution?

Analyze the situation and make a decision.

I recommend learning about women and why some techniques work.

IANAPUA_Yet · 2016-12-17T15:19:15+00:00

Like, if she asked me what I do and I said something like ''astronaut' or something, she'd think I was odd

Would she? And if she did, would you still want to date her?

When I give a girl an obviously silly answer, I expect her to play along. If she doesn't appreciate my sense of humor, she's probably not the right girl for me, so it's good that I'm learning this early in the interaction.

It would also be kind of uncalibrated to be grabbing her and spinning her around and shit in my kitchen, but OK in a club!

You can spin a girl anytime it makes even a little bit of sense. Obviously, it always makes sense in a club, but feel free to break it out in the kitchen any time something triggers a vague reference to dancing.

The most common situation is when you go to walk past someone and the two of you can't seem to decide which side to pass on. The cliche is your back-and-forth, indecisive passing looks like a dance. You can play on that by doing a little dance move with her.

Title	non gamey pickup
Author	takemeplaces
Upvotes	6
Comments	10
Date	December 17, 2016 11:42 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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