Hey everyone, lately I’ve been starting to talk to women more consistently. Almost 8 months ago I finished a LDR with a girl who was living in another country (we met during summer, were supposed to come and live together but then she caught me cheating, kind of forgave me but at the end she flaked and flew back to her country)

There were a couple girls here and there but nothing that transcended, after I broke up with the LDR girl my self esteem just plummeted. Not long ago life has started to improve so I’ve been feeling more confident and devoted to improve the dating aspect of my life.

Well, I have two jobs one of it is as a server, I am an average looking dude, no athletic build but very average, not bad looking though. Anyway, I flirt here and there with my coworkers and some girls that come to dine. I have kissed with 3 of the girls that work with me, with one I wanted to date but she got sick and during that process of her being sick then we end up in nothing, another girl took to me to her house but I flaked because I haven’t been with a girl for a year now. With the other girl we are friends and we have gone out as friends for a couple times now but I told her that I liked her and was not going to be left in the friendzone that she needed to know my real intentions, couple days after I told her that we went out and kissed but I know she has feeling against other dude so whatever.

Anyway, while I am at work I have got some numbers from girls that are my clients but I have noticed that is really hard to me to end up closing them to go out or something else. Last time I went out it was a group of 5 girls that invited me for a drink when my shift ended. There was one that showed interest on me but when I met the group after job this girl tells me she was dating someone else and didn’t want to give me false expectations for something to happen that night but that I could Hang out with them.

I stayed because well whatever, why not? I felt that I could have kissed her that night when she was buying me a drink at the bar but I just thought too much of ruining the vibe for what she had previously told me. Anyway, I texted her the other day that it was nice to meet them and to enjoy the rest of their vacations, they had 2 days remaining.

I still got all the girls instagram but haven’t text none of them, that happened 2 weeks ago. Dont really know how to start a convo and if it will go anywhere at all. I definately feel I needed a wingman that day but none of my friends were available. It was just me against 5 girls lol too much to handle that at this point

Well, yesterday it happened again. This time it was a table of 2 girls, we flirted, laughed I was actually having a good time with them. There was a nice contraste between them. One was very nice the other just kept shit testing me. I know she knew that I knew she was doing it on purpose and we rolled with it. The other girls was always saying very nice stuff which contrasted how much of an asshole her friend was.

Anyway, the nice girl asked me at what time I was going out after I offered them free shots (I do it to get reviews and is totally fine but is a nice way to make people in general feel special) So i told the girl that I didn’t go out on Sundays (I work 7:30am till midnight on Monday) so yeah it’s not worth it. But I told her to take my number and we could hang out one time and probably go visit her friend (hot one) at her job in an amusement park in Florida. She accepted and proceeded to text me.

Later at night she sent me some pictures, like old pictures where she was at the beach with another girl, very randome stuff and she goes like oh sorry wrong number luv u. I was like no worries, then told her she looked better the way she looks now. NO REPLY

So all of this makes me wonder that I don’t know how to fkn close a girl to move to something else. Also, this other girl from my job who I almost fucked once, I want to fuck her but I don’t know how to make it happen, we haven’t seen each other at work so much so yeah there’s that and the other girl that is my friend that I have kissed with, I feel that we kissed only because I told her we should try and see how it goes, after that, we kissed again next time we went out but I am the one who keeps looking for her which is making me feel needy and I don’t like that. Like if I flirt with her she will flirt back sometimes, some other times she will just ignore it.

I would appreciate if you can give me some advises on how to improve my closing skills.