Iev recently noticed this after having it mentioned to me on another subbreddit that this is a large issue for me, along with probably alot of other guys. The issue is that I seem to change abruptly when I become comfortable around girls, as I act differently when im doing game to when im dating them, which im sure is partly due to me wanting to be myself around them as im looking for a relationship more than a f-close/fwb/k-close/ect. Now that I look back on all the girls iev dated over the last 6 months have all ended exactly the same way, within almost exactly the same amount of time, they are always right into me when I game them, along with the first date but second date or half way through the first date when I become comfortable with them, and let out what im actually like they dont want to see me anymore.

After abit of a comparison between my game self and my comfortable self iev realized my comfortable self does not make enough eye contact, does not pass shit tests, does not show intent in any way other than emotional, is always validating the girl, does not act anywhere near as dominant as I should, ect.

Now here is wear my dilemma lies, Im wondering if I should adjust myself like I did when I started game to be more alpha essentially and always use game tactics as part of myself even in a relationship/when dating, or just keep doing what im doing although more gradual as to actually be with someone that excepts me for whoever I am.

I am leaning alot more to adjusting myself for the better as being that guy would probably be better for a relationship overall, aswell as be more attractive, but im still wanting a second opinion on this before I set out to obliterate any beta traits I have left.