I’m no guru or anything. Just an average guy with good results that leads me to at least one or two dates per week. Here’s an example of my latest hinge open to close for you guys. Honestly I think the fluff is boring but I’ve been told it might help you guys. She sent me her number last night. Super simple conversation. I don’t try to be overly clever or waste time small talking long. I’m direct with my intentions and typically go for a number or date within 5 messages.

Hope this helps! Good luck!

Her prompt: my love language is… pasta 🍝

Aug 17 - I check Yelp for new pasta spots and open with: have you tried the pasta at (restaurant)?

Sep 7 - she matches me Her reply: I don’t believe I have, where is that at ? 😊

Sep 9 - I reply: it’s in (city), I hear they have the best pasta in the (general location), I was actually planning on going this weekend, just need to find someone to take with me 🤔 (I don’t directly ask her out. Instead this forces her to make the next move)

Sep 10 - She replies: Awh I wish I didn’t work this weekend :( my favorite place in (location) is (restaurant), it’s in (city I’ve never been)

Sep 11 - I reply: I just looked up (her restaurant) that place looks bombbb Pasta would be my love language too if I ate there 😂 Do you live in the (area)? I’m in (city) (She didn’t propose an alternate date to meet up so neither do I. I had to get this convo moving so I change the subject)

Sep 11 - She replies: I live in (city). I just moved back home from (different city) over summer 😊

Sep 11 - I reply: ohh that’s not too far. Are you planning on moving back to (city)?

Sep 12 - She replies: no I only lived in (city) for nursing school but now that I’m done I plan to stay in (city) for awhile 😊

Sep 12 - I reply: congrats on nursing school 👏🏼 Tbh I’ve never been to (her city). What do you like to do out there ? I tried googling places to go and I couldn’t find a ton of options 😅 (the small talk is boring so I try to change the subject to bring up date topics)

Sep 12 - She replies: thank you ! Honestly there’s nothing out here to do really…I only came back here because all my family live out here 😅 (The weekends over and I have more important things to do so I don’t message her)

Sep 16 - I reply: well it turns out I’m just right down the hill and there’s always something fun to do around here. Have you been to (drink spot) in (city)? I think I might grab a drink there this Saturday if you’re down to join me (I also mention my work week and taking long to reply)

Sep 16 - She replies: you’re fine, I actually work on Saturday but I have been to (drink spot)! It’s so cute, we should definitely meet there one day

Sep 16 - I reply: let’s try and shoot for something next week! What’s your number? (Enough small talk. She wants to meet up so this is a clear sign to get her number and get off the app)

Sep 17 - She replies: Yeah we can try and do that, my number is xxxxxxxxx 😊 (We’re both busy this weekend so there’s no reason to text her right away. I’ll probably wait until Monday/Tuesday to send a light intro text, cut the small talk to a minimum and plan a date next weekend.)

Backup plan! You always keep your options open so here’s a short exchange between me and a different girl who I already have her number but we haven’t texted in a long time.

Sep 16 - I text her: Hey (her name)! I’m trying to check out this new rooftop bar at (hotel). I hear the scenery can’t be beat and they have the best mezcal mixes in (area). You down to catch some views and a drink with me this Saturday at 5? (I sent her a pic of the view that I found online)

(I’m direct with the plan and give her date, time, location. Women like it when you give them the exact date plan rather than a guessing game like “hey do you wanna go out with me this weekend…what day works for you… are you free at this time…. What restaurants do you like…” please don’t say any of that. Just be direct and confident in your decisions to make a plan.)

Sep 16 - She replies: Hey! Yes I’d love to I just have to be somewhere by 10 in (city) so I should be good on time what do you think?

Sep 16 - I reply: That works perfect! We’ll be just outside (city she needs to go to) so you’ll have time to get there before 10

Sep 16 - She replies: Perfect! (This message does not deserve a response. Don’t be needy and text a girl just because you want to small talk her to boredom. I won’t text today. I’ll text her tomorrow morning to send her the address for our date and say something like see you at 5!)

Sunday I’m going to a day party with djs and I lowkey sent another girl a half ass invite but I’m not pushing too hard for her to go because it will probably be more fun to meet the girls at the event

So there you have it. My date plans so far for this week and possibly next weekend.

Remember the most important thing is to always focus on you and your self-improvement over everything else. Don’t be desperate and needy. It does not attract women. Live your life and do what you enjoy. Invite girls on dates doing the things that interest you and on your schedule. Don’t change your life up to fit around their schedule and definitely don’t try to impress them by trying to be someone you think they’ll like by taking them on dates that you don’t enjoy. Be authentic and have fun!

Edit: typos