Older woman

recyclablebanthas · 2016-12-23T11:27:52+00:00

This is kind of sparse; you should usually drop more information when you post.

We've been intimate before.

I can only assume this means you either kissed her or had sex with her. How long have you been involved with her?

Would like to invite her to a bar but thinking she might be uncomfortable to be seen with someone younger.

Couple questions:

Just how much older is she?
What are you looking for here? Something serious or something casual?

Tips?

First off, it shouldn't matter "being seen" with you. Fuck that. You were WITH her. She obviously approves enough for that so stop with this nonsense about worrying that she might be uncomfortable being seen with you. It's often an ego boost for an older woman to pull a younger dude. Think about THAT.

If you're casual with her, why is there any need to do much in public with her? You shouldn't be aiming to go to places where you go regularly, anyway. Or anywhere that your friends (or hers) might go. That's just prudent. There's pretty much no reason to advertise that you are sleeping around unless you need a cheap ego boost and it backfires going for this, so just DON'T. There are bars and little hole in the wall sort of places you can choose that offer more privacy and aren't so much like showing someone off.
If you're looking for something serious, then you still might take it slow and go places that are a little off the beaten path from where your friends (yours or hers) usually go.

RytekBJJ · 2016-12-23T19:47:20+00:00

Take her wherever you will have fun. If she says she's worried what other people think then just say something like "you can stay home and worry about what everyone else thinks about you, or you can come have fun with me and find out what I think about you", then give her a playful smirk.

Archimedes88 · 2016-12-23T11:23:36+00:00

I've done a bit of this and never found a problem, especially if you've been intimate. Suggest a place away from where people may know either of you and run with a perspective of nobody cares as much as you two do, and any attention is just from insecure, jealous people who couldn't live out their fantasies if they tried. Above all, be confident and take the awkwardness out of any situation for the lady (such as ordering drinks or choosing a place to sit) you should always be decisive and be able to stand up for yourself and her, reassure her of your position through eye contact, smiling and being cheeky. After that she should associate comfortable feelings with you in public and be prepared to do more next time. Just don't try to do too much on the first time meeting; body contact is necessary, but the assumptions about young males gives us a disadvantage when it comes to people misreading our intentions. Kiss on the cheek close and being a gentleman has normally worked better for me than an actual pull, but you will be able to judge the relation and progression better than me. Good luck!

SeinoMore · 2016-12-23T09:34:37+00:00

Ask her?

Title	Older woman
Author	starwars765
Upvotes	3
Comments	4
Date	December 23, 2016 8:29 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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