On being too agreeable

sanktrangelov · 2021-03-02T08:29:08+00:00

Jokes are a fantastic way of disagreeing with someone while also maintaining their attention. From my experience at least.

thebodyclock · 2021-03-02T00:25:13+00:00

It's not about being too agreeable per say. It's about not worrying about what happens if/when you disagree. To put it another way, let's see what goes on in the minds of "nice" guys. They're afraid to disagree because they think that'll stop them from getting laid. Contrast that with a normal man who agrees and disagrees freely without caring how she will view him. Dont be afraid to say NO. Stop filtering your thoughts and actions because you think they'll offend her. Just say what you mean, mean what you say. If she doesn't like it, move on.

recyclablebanthas · 2021-03-02T11:27:26+00:00

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So the problem with my seduction skills rn is that I’m too agreeable. While that builds likability I think it’s lowering my value.

If you're too agreeable, it can come off as if you don't have self-respect. This would actually hurt your likability as well.

When you're a doormat people don't see you as a person, they see you something to be used. People who have self respect will be repelled and people who like to use others will be attracted.

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I feel like if girls never see a challenge in a conversation then they somehow think I can’t or won’t be able to defend her if I ever need to do it for her.

There's a lot to unpack here.

It's not so much a challenge that's attractive, but rather having a backbone.

There are also some girls who are attracted to messy, unstable dating situations that they see as a challenge these girls. These girls are chasing a fantasy ideal of a relationship built on codependency.

It's not about some notion that she is looking for someone to defend her. It's the fact that confidence is attractive.

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Anyways, tips on managing this?

You ought to master the discomfort that arises within you when you are in situations that you find yourself being too agreeable.

It's not about being rude. It's not about self amusing. It's not about pushing your agenda unilaterally.

It's about knowing what you want, having a confidence to put yourself out there and go after it, while at the same time having the empathy to be aware of what the other person wants and take that into account.

Finding a balance can be difficult.

imusuallynot · 2021-03-02T11:04:04+00:00

1) Find a topic you feel passionate about.

2) Talk about said topic - if you ever feel passionate about something, you will definitely have a strong opinion to put forward.

While she may not oppose your opinion, you will be able to show convincingly that you are not a 'yes man' and have your own convictions.

3) If you don't have anything you might feel passionate about, please see #1

EdaciousBegetter · 2021-03-02T08:38:23+00:00

Agree and I think in my life humor was my angle- in twenties I looked like Lenny Kravitz but I acted like Leslie Nielsen, it was all pratfalls, and self deprecating slapstick and I got tons of women, buuut that shit works less the older you get cause people want a partner ultimately and so got to man up at some point, or so it would seem...Unless you have tons of money, which will get you company but the rest is still up to you to get them to stay...One mans experience

250vibez · 2021-03-02T10:23:32+00:00

Be natural/ yourself. By being yourself you will meet the girl that like you for who you are. That's when you will find happiness.

dilfdad1 · 2021-03-03T04:09:13+00:00

Try this next time you're talking to a girl.

whatever the hell she's saying just make eye contact and think in your head " I'm going to fuck the shit out of you"

Somehow she actually telepathically hears your thoughts and voila.

Keep the conversation headed where you want it to go.

Nobody should really be dating material until they're looking for marriage.

The best part of a woman is the time before you say I love you back.

Papa_Musk · 2021-03-03T08:25:32+00:00

just try being the devils advocate for a week, whenever someone says something disagree with it, if they get offended tell them you are practicing being the devils advocate, if they can't take a joke fuck em

thebodyclock · 2021-03-02T01:24:29+00:00

Is that self diagnosed? How do you know that?

Maybe that's not your issue, just what you think it is.

But you can definitely start finding things you don't like and then sticking to them, but you don't have to go around barking No at people. Majority of people, even "successful confident guys" tend to be agreeable and calm. Think of most sport stars and models, they're pretty calm and relaxed.

The comment above is right, it's about not caring either way. Don't worry about being agreeable, just be you, if they don't like it or think this or that then so be it 🤷

CrabBucketSecurity · 2021-03-02T06:47:18+00:00

I agree

quirkypinkllama · 2021-03-02T17:14:54+00:00

I think you need to know your values and what you stand for and to speak your truth when it needs to. If she says that abortion is wrong and you think it's ok under special circumstances, then say as such.

You need to know yourself well in order to be able to stand up for what you believe in.

Title	On being too agreeable
Author	KangaJab
Upvotes	10
Comments	21
Date	March 1, 2021 11:40 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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