Hey Seddit,

some of you might have followed my other posts and I am truly grateful for your responses!

Being the beginner I am, that particular co-worker I had an affair with for several months turned getting into an early form of oneitis for me.

After she started seeing me as a fallback guy and tried another option I realized that I got completely hooked up on someone who clearly doesn't see me as a priority anymore and I started no contact.

However, 2 days into ignoring her, she started making cases up at work to force me to talk to her (I'm her boss, so it is kinda easy - she went to my manager asked for advice how to approach me with certain topics, which led to my manager asking me to talk to her etc.).

One thing led to another and being on a business trip we ended up having a few drinks, exchanging massive physical contact (no kiss though) and then the day after she flew back and met up with her third option again.

So I'm looking for a new approach to

a) start the process of de-attaching to her emotionally

b) limit contact without her sabotaging

c) don't come off as butthurt or jealous

Now I did start seeing other girls but I need to get rid of this ridiculous chemistry I have with that particular co-worker or I might end up being too reserved and she losing respect for me as her boss.

Happy for any help - also feel free to be open as f*ck - I know I messed up this one and should have cut her off way earlier.