What’s the best response to a ‘rejection’ text?

SnapSocialGuru · 2018-01-13T17:33:47+00:00

“Feel better.”

That’s it.

Flakes happen all the time. It comes with the territory.

Learn to handle these with finesse and a reschedule should be a piece of cake.

futuremo · 2018-01-13T15:41:57+00:00

Honestly it doesn't really matter what you say too much if she's not about it as long as you don't come off as super butthurt or something

kril89 · 2018-01-13T16:02:56+00:00

Honestly I'm always the needy dude that gets offended when girls do this shit. I want to just scream at them to tell me no! But the older I get the more I just tell myself okay and don't say shit to them. If they want to pursue anything with me they will contact me since they know how I want to.

Smooth21 · 2018-01-13T17:32:17+00:00

I love it when a girl rejects me. Because most girls in their early 20s "ghost" aka just stop responding.

When a girl has the decency to tell me they aren't interested in a date with me, I tell them "Thank you for your honesty. I respect that. You have my number if you change your mind. Good luck"

stylesm11 · 2018-01-13T18:07:14+00:00

bruh move to the next stop giving her attention

cyan1618 · 2018-01-13T16:36:20+00:00

Why "no contact would most likely make her think I'm mad at her", why it shouldn't be you spent your time do something interesting without her, or with other people that want to spend time with you, have fun with your friends...and what if you are mad, you have all the rights to be mad, not about her, but about you letting someone wasting your time, and since she doesn't want to be with you, just ignore her and move on, she mads at you or not, why do you even care.

throwawaylilbastard · 2018-01-13T18:02:41+00:00

She told you she will let you know if she feels better. Don't bother her anymore and she will be likely to tezt you first. If i were you, I would not text anything.

Romualdo52 · 2018-01-13T16:06:50+00:00

I just told her to get well soon and take a rest after all.

But speaking in general.

What’s your most successful reaction apart from ignoring her? I always feel like NC gives someone the impression that I’m mad at them.

onfire9123 · 2018-01-13T17:55:09+00:00

Nothing. Their rejection text should be the last one sent between the two of you forever.

t_3223322 · 2018-01-13T20:41:50+00:00

If you get a maybe response like that then just pull it back. Withdraw the offer this way.

Why don't you get back to me when you figure out your schedule.

Xerxys · 2018-01-13T23:28:23+00:00

"Ah alrighty then. Hope you feel better. :)"

Then forget her. Flakers gonna flake.

hunterpua · 2018-01-13T17:27:49+00:00

Its a good thing when she THINKS you're mad. The best she can do in that situation is speculate. She's never sure of whats going on in your head because there are so many reasons why you wouldn't reply. So though she might think you're mad, she will be uncertain and uncertainty is a good emotion to make women feel because we think more of that which we are uncertain of than that which we are certain of.

I'm pretty sure you know how her thinking of you more is a good thing.

Romualdo52 · 2018-01-13T18:06:57+00:00

Thanks for your advice guys.

In hindsight I should’ve gone with just not answering at all. I see your point in make her think that I’m mad at her by not answering is a good thing - after all I can just play her down that I wasn’t mad at all when she asks.

I told her to get well soon and take a rest. I’m gonna go with no reply next time a girl rejects me like that! Enjoy the rest of the weekend.

punkerdante182 · 2018-01-13T19:22:20+00:00

"Wellp, that sucks. Best of luck!" You're allowed to be upset if you felt a connection with someone. You're NOT however allowed to make them feel bad about their choice. It's short, expresses your disappointment but doesn't come off as a retaliation and is a good send off.

StarwarsITALY · 2018-01-13T21:23:12+00:00

Aloof text game stuff doesn’t work if you don’t have enough value to the girl. That doesn’t mean you aren’t a high-value dude or that she didn’t view you as high-value when you first met and got her number…it just means that for whatever reason your value at that point in time isn’t high enough to her (hell the reasons can even be out of your control like you have blonde hair and yesterday a blonde guy creeped out her friend and now she hates blonde guys this week even tho she loved that when you first met, like that’s something where you have no control).

These responses are basically an indicator of “you don’t have high enough value for me to fit you into my schedule”, and it’s good that you did the same thing to all of them so you can see a consistent pattern of them giving no fucks so you know you have to fix something lol

The basic problem is that you’re asking for too much compliance too soon, with not enough value. If I came up to you on the street on a day that you’re having a crappy day and said “give me a dollar.” you’d probably tell me to fuck off. But if I came up to you on the street and casually chatted with you, joked around and got you laughing and feeling good emotions, built a little connection with you swapping stories about our dogs that died when we were kids, got you laughing again and then said “hey you got a dollar on you? I’m half asleep and I have a business meeting and need to grab a coffee but I left my wallet at home.” you would probably give me a dollar, or a $5′er if you didn’t have a dollar handy.

The difference between those two scenarios is that in the first one I didn’t have high-value to you or a connection or comfort/rapport AND you weren’t in a good state. It’s not that you wouldn’t be open to giving me a dollar, it’s that I was being uncalibrated and just barging in instead of pacing your reality and leading you into a good state and then pitching the dollar request.

Sometimes you’ll catch the girl in a great state and the convo is just a quick push of “hey” “hi!!” “wow someone’s excited” “I just got a new job!!” “great then drinks are on you tonight” “lol no way” “fine, we’ll go dutch. BarName, 7pm.” “lol i dunno…” “shush don’t be gay.” “lol fuck you” “we’ll celebrate your new job. 7pm, BarName.” “lol okay”

Sometimes the girl is totally out of state or having a bad week etc. and you have to invest in a long txt convo or multiple txt convos to get her into a good state.

So you kind of throw out a normal txt first…I like to re-open with a cocky/funny tease like “don’t think I didn’t notice you sneaking around the bushes outside my bedroom window last night”, where she’s pretty much forced to respond even if it’s to be like “oh god lol” or “you wish”…like I just need ANY response, good or bad, because all I’m doing is trying to guage what kind of state she’s in.

Based on her response I’ll calibrate and if she’s in a receptive state I’ll start to push for the meet-up, and if she’s not in a receptive state I’ll joke, tease, roleplay, etc. and get her laughing and into a better state. If she doesn’t respond or responds slow with one-word replies I’ll try to figure out from what I know about her whether she’s just busy at work or with something happening in real life on her end, or if she’s not interested at all but usually it’s the former so I’ll back off and end the convo and try again in a couple days at a different time of day (maybe every day around 10am she has work stress but 2 days later I text her at 8pm and she’s done work and relaxed watching some funny TV show and is horny/flirty).

Once I know she’s lol’ing on her end, I’ll push for the meet-up and try to neutralize any of her objections either with hardcore plowing responses (like “i have plans” gets “cancel them, I’m more fun” or “i have lab tomorrow” gets “it’s fine, one drink, we’ll have you home asleep for your lab by 10.” etc.) or neutralizing them in advance (I know she’ll object to meeting up because she thinks I’m going to try to have sex with her so I’ll say “one drink, but we’re not having sex, I have an early morning tomorrow.” and kind of take that objection away before she can use it).

If you made a super boss impression on her when you first met her and got the number, and it’s within a few days of that interaction, you can probably be more aloof/direct. Brad Pitt could txt “let’s get coffee.” out of the blue a month later but it’s because he has massively high value to the girl by default.

But if you only made a decent impression or if you made a super boss impression but it’s a week or two later, or she was drunk that night, or for whatever reason maybe she’s embarrassed from making out with you that night or she’s hungover and tired and not feeling flirty or a million other things, then you probably have to build your value up again (basically reminding her of how high-value you are since she exchanged numbers with you at a point where she saw you as high-value) and THEN push for coffee.

It’s all super logical. The key thing to remember is that your value to her is ALWAYS in a state of fluctuation and if she doesn’t know you well, it’s in a state of slowly trickling downward. Like Brad Pitt or the alpha to an “alpha widow” will always have high value even if she never sees or talks to him again in her life. But the guy from the bar that one night’s value will slowly trickle downward over time, esp as she meets other guys from the bar that one night and they make newer impressions on her or they make bad impressions and she associates them with you etc. My point is: when you re-engage her via txt, assume that you’re re-sarging her from the start…it’s a smaller shorter faster sarge because you already know she can be attracted to you since you have her number, but you still have to go through the motions.

ExtraCheesePlease88 · 2018-01-13T23:13:46+00:00

Move on, it won’t make it any better if you keep asking. Unless you can bounce back and make them laugh a few more times after. Then ask again.

Cevar7 · 2018-01-13T23:48:28+00:00

I’ve made the mistake before of coming across needy, best to not go down that road. If they say that they’re busy, the most that I’d say is “feel free to shoot me a text when you’re free”. If she said she was sick I’d say something like “hope you feel better”.

DrBalance · 2018-01-14T01:00:33+00:00

Just move on. You won't even hear from her again because she isn't interested enough / any more.

Conor_Niggregor · 2018-01-14T03:17:25+00:00

"chuuuch"

ambiguous and appropriate

1vibe · 2018-01-14T12:16:27+00:00

NP. Catch you next time!

NomadDiver · 2018-01-13T20:07:48+00:00

Just say something around the lines of "oh sorry, the invite was for another chat "

Title	What’s the best response to a ‘rejection’ text?
Author	Romualdo52
Upvotes	20
Comments	66
Date	January 13, 2018 3:12 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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