I had oneitis for over two months, I think, and it was really taking over my life. My grades started dropping and I started skipping workouts coz this chick was always on my mind. Well, today I am pleased to announce that I am officially over oneitis. Just wanted to share a small guide on how I got over oneitis:

  1. Understand and accept that you have oneitis. This step is crucial. When you stop opening other sets, lose abundance mentality, fall into a massive scarcity and start projecting shit on the girl, you have oneitis.

  2. Watch the RSD Julien video. Link. Watch it more than once. Watch it everyday. I started watching this video every time I would leave my apartment to go to campus. Sometimes, I'd watch it during study breaks. Sometimes on the bus. Internalize everything Julien says. I know this is easier said than done but watching again and again will really hammer home the point

  3. Everytime you see/talk to/meet with the girl, find something negative about her. Find a "dealbreaker". It's hard to completely ignore someone and not project your ideals on a person you have oneitis on but finding negatives about her will help you get out of the scarcity based mindset.

  4. I know it is hard to hammer home all these ideas. The RSD video, the abundance mentality etc etc are all true but it is hard to mentally get over oneitis. A solution is to talk to more women so that you always remain in an abundance mentality but that is harder said than done. Here is what I think made the difference for me : I accepted that I need to get over this girl 4 days back. Before I could let that idea leave my mind, I set up a reminder on my phone to constantly remind me every hour.

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Today is the last day this reminder will probably be there. I was walking on campus, saw this hot phi mu, gave her a smirk and asked her out. She said yes :) . In the last 4 hours I havent thought of my oneitis even once. Infact, I went about my shit and made some new friends with prospective students visiting campus.

I know oneitis is a bitch. I know it is useless to tell someone in oneitis to stop thinking of the chick and open more sets. The best solution is to accept that you have oneitis, accept that it is a bad thing, accept that there is no such thing as a dream girl or that there are multiple dream girls and to keep reminding yourself these points all the time so you never fall into scarcity.