I am starting to wonder if my dating struggles here are more isolated to Seattle or if it's a nationwide problem. I only want men from Seattle that have had the chance to date in other cities to comment on this. Anyone who is not from Seattle, will have no clue what I am talking about.

Seattle I have heard has a male to female ratio that might be one of the worst in the country (more male than females)  In 2023, there were 107.3 Seattle men for every 100 Seattle women . However cities like Austin or San Francisco were not far behind this statistic either. I am also not sure if the statistics on these are overblown.

Seattle I have been told is a very anti social city (they call it the seattle freeze for a reason), however sometimes I wonder if that can be overblown too since every city will have rude people. Miami for example I have been told was the rudest city in the nation.

The problems I am dealing with here in Seattle are as follows:

1) dating apps (tinder, hinge, fetlife, social media), whatever you use online to meet other women, it feels like a waste of time/energy. 99 percent of the time it feels like like flakes, fakes, bot account, strange people trying to do ruin your life, and your competing for overweight fat women sometimes who dangle you like a carrot with their long lists of selection. How many times has a girl said to me they have a long list of options and that I am disposable to them.

2) cold approach in person is not great either. If I am out at the gym, grocery store I might get a phone number here or there , but 90 percent of the time its a flake. If your even lucky to get on a date, the girl has these extremely high standards and will always refuse the 2nd date because she will say "I can not form an emotional connection".

3) cold approach in large areas like college campuses, you can approach like 100 women and be lucky if you get 2 numbers only for them to flake too. Most of the women will say they have a boyfriend or totally shun you.

It becomes this exhaustive task that feels like its an impossible game to win, like it just feels rigged against me. To many flakes, to many I have a boyfriend excuses, to many rejections. I've been tempted to just give up and go to a hooker, but I don't wanna go to a hooker because of std risks.

So tell me, is it like this all over the nation? If it is infact like this all over the nation, then maybe going to a hooker would be a not so bad idea even though it might be risky.

HOWEVER..........

If what I am dealing with IS ONLY A SEATTLE ISOLATED PROBLEM, then going to a hooker might be a stupid decision if it really is much better in other places.

I also live close by to vancouver, Canada or portland Oregon, maybe I could go there? or maybe its the same issues?

I just want the truth to know if this problem I am dealing with is only seattle or all over the USA, again only people from seattle please comment.

thanks.