OUTER GAME: 5 Mistakes When Approaching, And How To Fix Them

joshsway · 2013-10-09T12:38:36+00:00

not a lot out there about trouble shooting ... here are some troubleshooting tips regarding an initial approach. Also note I am giving away a free 30pg e-book on women and attraction on my site.

entboarder · 2013-10-09T16:00:42+00:00

Hey, can you elaborate on overbearing body language? I've noticed that I sometimes make women uncomfortable because (I think) I give off some kind of an aggressive or scary vibe... any tips on how to build more comfort right off the bat with my body? I don't get in their face or talk loudly, I think, but I do smile a lot, and I think it can look almost predatory.

Thoughts?

torquesteer · 2013-10-09T16:44:12+00:00

Hi Josh, when I first started out, I used to have approach anxiety like everyone else, and the 3-second rule worked out great for getting over the hump. However, now that I know I CAN and that I MUST approach her, I take my time with it. Maybe I'll talk to a few strangers around her first. This shows that I'm in abundance status and I'm just friendly. Maybe I'll do something that makes me laugh to show I'm self amused. In the meanwhile, I'm getting more and more info on her so I can be congruent once she replies to my initial Hi. I tend to acknowledge the situation that she's in (alone, with a bestfriend, being a wingwoman, etc...).

In some way, I believe that showing SOME hesitation is good now. She sees that you're overcoming some social barrier and really putting yourself out there. Even when I feel very confident ("in state"), I'll hesitate a little for her to check me out first.

Title	OUTER GAME: 5 Mistakes When Approaching, And How To Fix Them
Author	joshsway
Upvotes	29
Comments	7
Date	October 9, 2013 12:37 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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