If you read most of my posts, I speak a lot about inner game (meditation, mindset shifts, clear-mindedness, etc). You have the occasional comments of non-believers saying that it's all about outer game. Well, I'm gonna explain why outer game ain't worth shit if you inner game sucks.

Think of your inner game as your foundation. The more solid you feel on the inside, the more it shows on the outside. The more unstable your game is on the inside, the more unstable you'll appear on the outside. If you're faking it til you make it, you are relying on the outcome for your confidence. Men who fake it til they make it come off as disingenuous. Women like to party with these guys, but end up getting disappointed when they get to know them. These are the men who have a strong first impression, but their relationships don't last. When a man has strong inner game, but weak outer game, if a woman gets to know him, she will tend to fall for him because "there's something about him". He looks very average, but he carries himself like he's top of the line. He has very good eye contact and he makes her feel sexy.

You see, there's a difference between showing sexual interest and making a woman feel sexy.

Let's say you and a woman never say a word to each other but you feel a lot of sexual chemistry with one another. You give each other strong eye contact from a distance and the more you come in close proximity to one another the more you feel that sexual tension. Women love this, and when a man has strong inner game, the better he can handle this tension.

If you fake it til you make it, you're looking her clearer signs. You think she's not interested because she's not flicking her hair. You are looking for signs instead of feeling her out.

Women are very emotional. When a man can connect with a woman on an emotional level, she will feel a higher level of attraction for him.

"That doesn't sound manly. A man getting emotional?"

Think of it like this. When you connect with a woman on an emotional level, you are more certain that she likes you. If you don't have that emotional connection, you will second guess yourself.

As a man, you want to be grounded and strong. She will feel more attraction for you as a man. If you're connecting with her the way her girlfriends connect with her, she's gonna see you as a "gal pal". This is how a lot of men get put into the friend zone. When you are grounded and strong, she will feel the same kind of attraction she has for the guys she dates.

So imagine having this under your belt. You may have a friend who has strong inner game. Women just seem to be instantly attracted to him... without him even doing anything. He's not even that "good-looking". But for some reason he has no problem getting women. It's not because he approaches hundreds of women a day and looks like an alpha male. It's because his inner game is so strong that it shows on the outside.