Hi all. I've been lurking on seddit for a few weeks and felt compelled to post today. A little background first.

I've been married for nearly six years, mostly happy but some definite struggles. My wife and I had been drifting apart for about a year and it took me a while to realize it but it was because she was losing attraction to me. I'm not sure she even realized it, but it became apparent to me when I didn't get any birthday sex back in December. That was my 'come to Jesus' moment. A few days later I started counting calories, working out, etc. Lost 25 pounds since and working on losing more.

I later came to realize some time in the past month that my biggest problem was my lack of confidence. I'm the classic AFC. So I remember having read about game and stumbling upon this sub in the past and decided to work at it. I've been putting myself out there much more than in the past. I make it a point to look people in the eye, say hello, etc. I've also been openly flirting (teasing, cocky/funny) with girls at work. I'm a chef and there are lots of attractive young waitresses for me to practice with. The change has been amazing. Just by cracking some jokes and sarcastically teasing, the ladies are actively seeking my attention. I'm not going to cheat on my wife, but this shit is definitely fun.

So, back to the subject of this post. At work, I wear the typical chef uniform: chef jacket and pants, apron, hat. Our hats are issued by the hotel so it's nothing special. Today I forgot my hat so I wore my fitted baseball cap that I typically wear to most places. I wear it kind of backwards and to the side and I gotta say the look suits me. When I walked into the kitchen and the girls saw me, it was unreal! 'Naoyaru, I like the hat,' 'Naoyaru, you look good in the hat,' etc. This was without even trying. And I imagine this would not have happened if I was my typical AFC self.

I want to thank this community and all the other game related information I've been reading. This shit works. And all I want is to win back the attraction of my wife.