In my 6 months of game, touching has always been a sticking point for me. How do you initiate it? What should I say if she asks about it? Am I screwed if I'm not physical off the open. Luckily, I have learned.

To preface this, I want to point out that in my experience, physicality is the number one way to "charge" up your interactions to get them pointed in the right direction (sex). This doesn't mean that all touch is going to be sexual, but for us it is a tool to escalate sexually (among other things.

But none of that actually teaches us how to comfortably be physical with girls. But don't worry, I'll try my best to teach just this.

So the FIRST thing to know about kino is that if YOU give it a lot of value, its going to be creepy. Like if you are slowly reaching out your arm to touch her shoulder, she's going to want to run the hell away. On the other hand, if you playfully nudge her or lightly and briefly touch her with the back of your hand right after making a joke, its totally acceptable.

Along this thread is the idea of "misdirection." I've never heard anyone in the pickup community use this term, but the magician thief guy whose video got reposted in this sub referred to the other distracting actions he does while initiating physical contact as misdirection. With some closer inspection, I realized that misdirection is at the heart of a lot of old school PUA teachings on kino. Like the standard light kino steps, such as handshakes, spins, or hugs are all misdirecting the physicality to the metaphysical action itself (its OK because its in the context of a hug or handshake). Along these lines, its ok if its fun. Misdirection can be interpreted very broadly in my opinion, but most of the time you need something other than JUST you touching the girl, like the awkward arm on her that stays there like a limp dick for 20 minutes.

Next is kino from the start. I saw Tyler do this ALL THE TIME in his videos but it never even registered with me for a while. He calls this the claw, or hand of god if he offers his hand to a girl. It immediately established an intimate frame that easily gets sexual, and being close and touching like that creates a lot of comfort. Its a common idea that the later in the interaction you start being physical, the worse it is, so starting from the open is ideal (though not always going to be the case).

In my opinion you should aim to be in physical contact with the girl for AS MUCH of the interaction as possible. If you start kino early this is MUCH easier than if you wait.

Now for some kino moves and tricks: *The claw: reach out to a girl to stop and open her *(spin) handshake: easy way to kino from the start, spin adds fun *hug: can be done right on the open, or later for whatever bullshit reason you tell her (ex. you're from LA? you get a hug!) *high five: easy kino for same bullshit reasons as hug. Off of this, you can keep holding the girls hand, do a spin, lead her somewhere or your own transition *Evolution Phaseshift: google it, use at your own discretion *Spin into kiss: grab girl's right hand with your right for a high five, hold, then grab left with left, spin her around, put hands behind her back, and kiss her. Amazing. *Make excuses to play with her hair *Comment on a clothing item, tattoo, etc, touch that area *Touch shoulder for emphasis or on jokes *Kiss hand for whatever reason you decide *"Draw" with your finger on her arm or better yet leg with bullshit excuse *Pull her in closer with I can't hear you excuse

There are tons more ways, but with these you have no excuse not to get started. Most of these are fine with other people present, but to really escalate (makeout, feel up, foreplay) you will want to be isolated.

Also, as a treat here's some ways to get into particular positions with girls: *One step back rule: If you want to get your arm around a girl, find a reason to hug her and leave an arm on her. Same goes for holding hands. *Ask how tall she is, if she tells you a number tell her to stand up, take her seat when she does, and then offer that she sits on your lap. *Open with a handshake, spin, or whatever and keep physical contact from there. This is by far the easiest and best way overall.

With all this, yall have no excuse not to throw yourselves into the physical game. Its a hell of a lot more fun, spices up interactions, builds comfort, and has improved my game more than anything else.