Question about being non-reactive.

Alphahands · 2016-12-09T19:10:29+00:00

I have no idea where you got that definition. Everywhere I've seen non-reactive, the definition has boiled down to staying consistent in your emotions and reactions, without giving leeway to things like shit tests. Not being an emotionless robot, but not being constantly affected by what other people do/say either.

Kitt_55 · 2016-12-10T08:49:43+00:00

"Out of all the behaviors listed here, becoming non-reactive will likely take the largest amount of practice to achieve. Caring greatly about an outcome or having a disproportionate amount of investment early on in an interaction is advertised through the invested person being reactive. In an initial conversation where you barely know a woman, there is no good reason why the outcome should have a strong emotional effect on you. The opinion of a stranger does not shake the core confidence of an attractive man.

As previously mentioned in the chapter regarding scarcity, having mental and physical abundance greatly contributes to one being outcome independent. While the other bad behaviors on this list can more or less be immediately curtailed through conscious awareness, it’s almost impossible to completely camouflage one’s outcome dependence. Even if you are able to avoid reacting to a large degree, a small waver in eye contact, crack in vocal tonality or an interruption in the flow of your speech can give you away. For many women, even such a small show of incongruence will end any attraction.

Being able to hold one’s composure while exposed to varied external stimuli demonstrates great self-confidence. As mentioned in the previous chapter, congruence tests are used to assess a person through checking their reactivity to different stimuli. A common congruence test is when a woman abruptly ends a conversation with you, runs over to start chatting with another man, and looks to see if you are needy enough to chase her. Even if you don’t make the egregious error of physically lunging after her, an instantaneous look in your eyes that shows a fear of loss may still expose your outcome dependence.

When you are outcome dependent and acting reactively, it is normally shown via the four previously mentioned unattractive behaviors: breaking eye contact, bartering, chasing/forcing rapport and qualifying yourself. If a woman causes you to lose your train of thought or get stuck in your head via a congruence test, then you are being reactive. If you try to convince a woman who wants to go home to stay with you by shouting: “What you’re leaving!? It’s still early, how about one more drink?” then you are being reactive. If you continuously qualify yourself because you are worried of a woman’s perception of you and that you may fall from her good graces, then you are being reactive."

-Fundamentals of Female Dynamics by Michael Knight

Bored · 2016-12-10T10:09:21+00:00

Humor = self-amusement

msmiitz · 2016-12-10T13:55:33+00:00

wtf? humor is good. don't tease

Title	Question about being non-reactive.
Author	OnMyOwnShit
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Date	December 9, 2016 5:13 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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