I'll try to make it very simple. Is the dating scene for men, today, exactly like this? Or not? Here is the example:

The First Man is a 6'2" guy with a college degree, and works as a decently paid accountant. Since he's "ahead of the curve," he therefore has "much more choice" than the average guy. So it means he can turn away women he's not interested in without guilt, and still expect to find some interest FROM women he is actually interested in.

The Second Man is an autistic guy with multiple disadvantages. This guy is just 5'9" in height, has no college degree, and has either crap job or no job. Since he has so many deficits, it means the element of "choice" does not exist for him. Online, he could try to message women he's remotely interested in, and never get anywhere. There's a very small audience that shows interest in this guy, but they're not the type he's into... and, though he feels guilty about it, he's honest with himself that "forcing" interest is the wrong thing to do. While he's guilty that he turns some away (because of the "choosy beggar" stigma) he also has some principles.

So, is that essentially the way "choice" works in today's world for men?

Or is that how it works online (real life being more forgiving, etc.)?

One last thing, is there any flexibility in these rules or is it always like this for "low value" or autistic guys, essentially they either need to "have no standards" or exit the game entirely?