Question: Post first-date text

Xiphwork · 2013-09-06T15:42:17+00:00

I think you should stop worrying about if its a bad sign or not. It makes you seem insecure.

Your text was fine, you should never feel intimidated or afraid to text a girl after a date. Especially to let her known you enjoyed the time you spent together. Most girls actually like it when you do this.

I wouldnt make assumptions at this point. If shes into you she will respond, if not well there are literally billions of fish in the sea, arent there?

ltkernelsanders · 2013-09-06T15:51:30+00:00

My thinking is, she knows you had a great time hence the kissing and whatnot. Since you already mentioned the weekend before you left, the text was reiterating things already known/talked about, and within the last hour no less. This makes you look clingy and comes off as "I really wanted to hang out with you this weekend so I'm sending this text to remind you of that and pretend like I'm ok with you not hanging out with me". I have been guilty of this a lot in the past, usually it leads to flaking, but sometimes you can pull it out of the downward spiral. If she doesn't text back, just wait a few days, maybe even a week, and text her about going out again, but be specific like "hey do you want to go do x on y day". Eventually you'll get a feel for how comfortable different types of women are with how soon or how much you text/call/give them attention.

wolfie1010 · 2013-09-06T16:51:22+00:00

Don't send that kind of text, it takes the fun out of the wondering you instill in her. Now she can't speculate on giq much you liked her and whether she kissed you well. You've signaled that you definitely want another date and you can't be the busy, mysterious and aloof guy that she wants to be with.

xsmiley · 2013-09-06T15:39:23+00:00

Nah b. Let her wallow in the kiss. Text her like 3 days after for small talk but immediately after is kind of a desperate almost needy vibe.

Bagelinguous · 2013-09-06T15:43:00+00:00

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Horvaticus · 2013-09-06T17:05:22+00:00

"Hmm...7/10, would do again"

Mouthpiece · 2013-09-06T17:16:06+00:00

Set up the next date:

"That was fun. Let's do that again, but better. Meet me at…"

SizeLies · 2013-09-06T17:22:30+00:00

I think it's a fine text to send IF she was as happy about the date as you were. I do agree with another poster, however, that it might have come across as slightly validation-seeking since you had already had the kiss etc. That said, the same poster also said something like this could be pulled around, and I tend to agree. Give it about 3 days, and if she hasn't contacted you, then send another feeler text.

ntc2e · 2013-09-06T18:17:53+00:00

sorry but it's so cringe-worthy to see you call a kiss, a K-close every time. every time you kiss the girl, it isn't a k-close. only the last time, if that's as far as you get.

camtactsAPPsucks · 2013-09-06T18:23:08+00:00

honestly, i wouldnt really consider this a solid date. id consider this a meeting bro. you sounded 'try hard' from the jump.you made your intent clear? what was your intent? to fuck her? if so, did you communicate that physically?

you tried to maintain alpha posture? ok. what else alpha did you do? did you lead her to where you want to fuck her? why didnt she come to your house to begin with?

who bought drinks? did you flirt with the female bartenders? im guessing you devoted all your attention to her and only her the whole night?

you are worried about 1 text? one text usually wont make or break anything. even though "you seem pretty cool" or "u really need to stop by and look at this painting i just bought" might have been a better choice.

personally, i dont kiss outside the sex location. to me, kissing outside the sex lo ation is like showing off your golf club at the bowlong alley.

Title	Question: Post first-date text
Author	Bagelinguous
Upvotes	17
Comments	36
Date	September 6, 2013 2:52 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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