Questions about stalling just after my opening

Ucayali · 2012-03-06T18:05:26+00:00

I don't think you should pretend to like something you detest. It seems that after you told them you didn't like the music the groove of the conversation stopped. Usually when I find that I hit a wall conversation wise I smile and jump into story mode. You could of told them a story of how you enjoy talking to people who have different music tastes than you , and talk about a friend of yours who listens to other music and it's interesting to hear his point of view on things. Or you could of talked about how people have different tastes concerning food and how some things that look weird might taste good. So the underlying message is that you like to talk to different people and explore life.

You are an intellectual dude so coming up with connections between subjects and experiences shouldn't be such a big problem. Sometimes your story can be completely unrelated or have just a tinny connection to the previous topic of conversation. Most girls enjoy when guys tell stories because it takes the pressure off of them and they get to be entertained. As you are telling a story make sure you get all of their attention by projecting your voice and making eye contact or slightly touching the ones who start getting distracted. If there is a point in your story where you describe your feelings you can pause and say "you know" or "you ever felt like that" or anything similar while you nod, and they instinctively agree with you.

The only problem with preppy dingy girls is that they might think you are too smart or too intellectual for them. A way to prevent this is through self-deprecation. You don't want to be seen as a know it all so mention sometimes that you wish you knew more about something or lack understanding of a certain area.

Next time you find yourself in a situation where conversation is dying down just jump into a story and hopefully the groove will pick up and you can isolate and escalate.

BGSO · 2012-03-06T17:39:49+00:00

Do you conversation thread? Within that story there are about 6 different secondary conversations you could've gotten into.

Thread, thread, thread, thread.

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-03-06T18:09:04+00:00

LOL I had to google Mac Miller and see a video. It hurt my ears. I mean actually caused physical discomfort. Is this a new trend in music, to attack your audience with total audio shit?

What you're trying to do is called hooking a set. You already had the set hooked, they were interested enough to set you up on their iPod. The next step would have been to lock in. She actually had you locked in with the iPod, that's a "lock-in prop." You could have continued but you know you blew yourself out.

There are various ideas about what to do once you've locked in. I'll just toss you an article that covers a few ideas, The first 3 to 5 minutes. Just be aware that you actually did pretty well, you locked in, now keep doing that and keep pressing forward. With each set you'll learn more about how to advance the set.

AveofSpades · 2012-03-07T05:37:43+00:00

Holy hell is that a real musician? That has to be a SNL skit

orangeapplegrape · 2012-03-07T01:40:05+00:00

The exact same thing happens to me sometimes. I also consider myself of the nerdy category and find myself losing interaction with HB7's because of this separation of interests.

What I try to do now is build my knowledge in subjects I don't really like and do research on stuff like this on my free time so I can at least say something about the topic and then steer it off to something similar that I do enjoy (also makes you look smart).

I would say in the situation you were in it would probably be bad to fake interest if you disliked it that much. Because they were waiting for the concert they would probably be talking about Miller the whole time until it was over and it would be difficult and perhaps awkward for you to thread the conversation away too much (someone please correct me if I'm wrong- this may be the reason why I don't know any girls lol).

rocmarciano · 2012-03-06T17:47:44+00:00

Keep doing it, and it will get better. With more relaxed confidence and proper body language those girls would be grinding on you during the show. Your not trying to make friends. Your bringing your amazing self into her life and turning her on like no one else. It's hard and awkward at first but once you have genuine confidence and true inner game... Those girls will love you and fuck you

IV-65536 · 2012-03-07T09:37:41+00:00

I feel like this environment has more power than you do. Meaning, they are obviously there and super pumped about Mac Miller, so even if you don't like it (which is fine because he sucks), you have to branch from that instead of rejecting it. If you started talking about your old dog randomly, hardly anyone there would care. The energy there is different and focused. It's probably gonna be more playful, something like "I bet you guys are gonna go nuts on the dancefloor, what's your best dance move?" or whatever, I can't think right now.

It kind of sounds like you are projecting high-school-popular-girls onto these girls, which makes you think you are at more of a distance than you actually are. I subconsciously think the same thing sometimes; several years in grade school only strengthens that, but it doesn't really matter where it came from.

Also, keep in mind that smart/humble/shy/nerdy girls sometimes just go out to have fun and go crazy at concerts too (gasp).

retain my masculinity

What a weird way to say "not feel embarrassed".

Title	Questions about stalling just after my opening
Author	Hoplite1
Upvotes	4
Comments	13
Date	March 6, 2012 11:27 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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