[rant] Going out and not getting results

Kenic_In_MD · 2018-04-02T19:06:12+00:00

start opening every girl and just going out.

Screen better, I learned very early that opening every girl will get you no where fast and is a waste of time. You are basically on a time limit when you go out to the bars/clubs.

I try to stay in set as long as I can

This is good to start with but as you get better learn when to eject from a set. If she isn't interested and it's going nowhere move on to a girl that may have more interest in you, the convos will be much smoother and give you a higher potential to close.

but I just feel like other guys are cooler than me. Like other guys skydive and stuff but I am scared of skydiving so haven't done it.

How do you know what they have and haven't done? Stop comparing yourself to other dudes, you do you and stop giving a fuck about other people.

his emotional state was just more upbeat, centered and positive and I think that drew the girl in.

Good observation, do you think you can copy this when you go out? Or at least fake it? It really is as simple as that.

Vibe was sad and a bit low and she just felt that.

No one wants to hang with a downer.

Anyway just frustrating going out so much, opening so many sets, talking, but the girls are not like getting attracted

Once you learn to screen better you will still open a decent amount of sets, but they will be more fruitful. Sometimes the night is a blowout and you get nothing. That's just how this game is, you don't win at monopoly every time you play right?

I have done cool shit in my life like worked on apps, ran my own tech company, graduated a top uni, travelled a lot of places in the world

This is all great, while doing all this talking have you once stopped and asked what makes the girl you're talking to so great? If you've done all this cool shit why is she worth your time? Let her talk about herself, people in general love talking about themselves. She should be talking about 80% of the time.

I've done a lot of cool shit too that can come off as braggy, what i do is let her talk and if she hits on something I've done I will throw my experience on that subject to drive the conversation forward. Be playful, make jokes have fun it's not an interview and isn't supposed to be taken so seriously.

SJ_Shark_Byte · 2018-04-02T18:48:25+00:00

Well first of all you are completely insecure. You keep comparing your lack of success to the success of those around you.

How about you try shutting out all that noise and focus on your own successes? Like the fact you went out. A lot of guys decided to stay home, beat their meat and play games or watch Netflix instead of meeting people. So +1

You are opening on hot girls. Another +1. You have an interesting life. Another +1

Look at your positives while examining your flaws. Focus on YOUR PROGRESS and stop comparing it to others’.

ReallyGrounded · 2018-04-02T21:54:14+00:00

It doesn't matter where you are, what you've done, or really anything about you. If you're upbeat, positive, funny, playful, you can do anything. The woman doesn't care what you do. She's not looking to date you. She's looking to have a good time. Provide that to her and you'll have a good time too.

IllStep · 2018-04-02T21:59:15+00:00

what city? And how old are you?

WhatIsThisAccountFor · 2018-04-02T23:52:24+00:00

I worry when I just start going on about my life and myself it is going to disengage her.

Relate your life to her experiences. She starts talking about whatever crap she cares about, think about how some aspect of your life was similar in a regard to that aspect of hers.

Let's say she had to deal with a lot of fear when she went skydiving or something (you said skydiving is common where you are). Talk about how nerve wracking it was when you first performed on stage rapping. Or when you first looked into the poker face of another professional poker player.

Just make shit up about how you actually felt if you have to. As long as they're based on real life experiences, and your real life experiences are interesting, the woman will be engaged in your conversation. Like 99% of a good storyteller is learning how to tastefully exaggerate a scenario.

TruthSFree · 2018-04-03T16:20:31+00:00

Always have something better to do than picking up girls. That way, all your focus is not on your own energy. Do lions worry about their energy? Roar No! They're out biting ****, ruling the jungle, and banging the females. Point being I can tell by your post you are too in your head and need to go do that thing, you've been too scared to go do, whatever it is, and if you don't know what that is, figure it out. Best of luck, Cheers!

Title	[rant] Going out and not getting results
Author	MajesticPanic
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	April 2, 2018 6:06 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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