Repeated cancellations (with an excuse)

TheNextBigCrash · 2022-06-03T01:39:11+00:00

Tbh this time of year is pretty hectic for students on some courses. Is she a med student by any chance? Their exams start next week (where I am anyway). Girl I’m seeing atm is in library literally 12 hours a day.

I’d take it as a soft rejection. Just tell her to drop you a text when she’s free, and you’ll see if you can fit something in. I wouldn’t try to arrange another date.

Either her scheduling is shit or she’s not attracted - either way I’d not pursue.

Bitter-Eye5191 · 2022-06-03T03:11:47+00:00

Option 1, and let HER make the next move. She’s gonna be the one inviting you.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-06-03T03:34:49+00:00

Do not contact her again. Wait to hear from her and if you never do there’s your answer. If she doesn’t appreciate your time now, she’s not going to appreciate your time later

Red_cat_nap · 2022-06-03T03:53:36+00:00

She probably is truly busy. But then that’s almost unfair to be dating. Let her plan/suggest the next thing?

OThinkingDungeons · 2022-06-03T06:38:48+00:00

This behaviour is unfair to you and callous of her. If her life is too busy to be dating, then she shouldn't be booking out your time which could be better spent on someone who HAS the energy to date.

Set your boundary, put a time lockout and leave it in her court. "Hey it's obvious you don't have the time to date right now, how about you give it a month and contact me if things change".

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-06-03T11:24:00+00:00

Why are you dating in the first place? You forced a frame on her that is inherently disadvantageous to men. Dating her means auditioning for her. It means you are going to try and impress her and hope to get "chosen" by her. You are forcing her in the buyer position and as a good buyer she wants to take her time, kick them tires and hold off on making the transaction because she has a limited number of times she can make that transaction without being negatively judged by society (a girl can only have so high of a body count before she's labeled a slut).

When I was single I didn't go out with women unless sex was a foregone conclusion. They knew straight away what I was about and what my expectations were. Once that was clear, then sure, I would indulge them over a drink just to get to know them and see if they are annoying and clingy or crazy.

But you are now chasing. Have you made it clear to her what type of guy you are?

quadfintryfin · 2022-06-03T12:52:49+00:00

“Okay let me know when you are free and we will plan something then”

Leave the ball in her court.

99% of the time she will never reach out but then you have your answer.

2022-06-03T13:38:33+00:00

Did not read past the first sentence. Next this chick, text more girls.

Title	Repeated cancellations (with an excuse)
Author	JollyEye3
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	June 3, 2022 12:41 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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