right way to calibrate escalation?

Substantial-Bad-4508 · 2025-06-30T13:29:20+00:00

You like Tyson, so let's throw Bruce Lee into the mix:

"Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way round or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water my friend."

COMPEWTER_adminisp · 2025-06-30T18:04:55+00:00

calibration comes from experience man; every woman is different, things not always go as planned haha

bafun13 · 2025-06-30T22:09:02+00:00

Better to override Comfort than being pushy and come off as a creep

Stock_Touch_5204 · 2025-07-01T10:34:29+00:00

As you mention Mike Tyson, I want to ask you a question. Have you ever stepped in a ring and sparred?

There is no magical correct formulae for knowing how to box. You step into the ring for a sparring session, and you take punches to the face. Sooner or later you just naturally get better at it, as long as you put in effort on learning your skills.

Boxing is not something you do conciously, it all happens subconciously. The only way to get good at it, is to step into the ring and accept you are going to get punched in the face and continue.

Its the same with the Army, you practice and practice, your skills and drills. Then when the shit hits the fan, you do your skills and drills naturally.

So go on as many dates as possible, try different things, accept you will fail but at times you will succeed. And have belief in yourself. Instead of looking for one magical answer that will solve all your problems (which does not exist).

The people who are good at this stuff, do not sit there thinking, it has been exactly 49 seconds since I moved my arm, I must now do X, then 5 minutes after that I do Y and so forth. No they have been through their pain of rejection, they have persisted and it just starts to develop naturally.

Its like the English language, writing, art, ANYTHING. You practice the basics to start with, then after a while it comes naturally.

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-07-01T21:11:35+00:00

As a former serial dater who's had his fair share of casual flings I'd say you should always aim for a kiss on the first date. If you don't at least get a little make out after a few hours of hanging out alone (aka a date) that first night, I wouldn't even bother scheduling a second date as that's an indicator she's not actually romantically /physically attracted to you.

As for sex, my general rule is go for it as soon as possible. If she's giving you solid vibes on the first night, by all means take her home. But most women aren't "ready to go" until the second date as they slut shame themselves into not giving it up on the very first date.

I'd say the distribution for the first time having sex with a new partner is 25% on the first date or encounter (ONS), 50% on the second date, 20% on the third date ,and the rest would be after 3.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-06-30T13:30:39+00:00

It's really up to you and how well you can feel and gauge the other person and the aura and vibe they're giving off.

I'd say the third date is usually the one for sex. but if you're feelnig it you could try and go for it on the second.

Title	right way to calibrate escalation?
Author	ice_man085
Upvotes	5
Comments	6
Date	June 30, 2025 1:22 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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