Same results over and over. Need advice.

unlivedbread · 2021-11-06T17:06:37+00:00

Ditch the mindset of needing to be something. if you can't get the girl being yourself then you 100% shouldn't have her, because whats gonna happen when she sees the real you? and finds that what you are isn't what shes really after?

A healthy LTR is hard to get, alot needs to line up and most of the time it simply isn't going to work.

iambabyshark · 2021-11-06T15:00:08+00:00

You're being too friendly. While holding a conversation is a great skill to have, and will earn you some comfort, you shouldn't really focus on that until you're sure she's attracted. So say you sit down on your date and start talking, try to steer the conversation into a direction where you can demonstrate your value, such as what you do for work (are you important, do you mentor/train people, etc). Do this until she gives you interest signals like eye contact, laughing at all your jokes, leaning in, etc. Then you have her qualify to you. And NOW you start getting to know her. Remember, she had to win you over before you'd start being curious about her. So essentially, you're not securing attraction before getting to know her and that's landing you in the friendzone and not the fuckzone

daddysgotanew · 2021-11-06T18:07:56+00:00

In the modern era you’re either a 0 or a 1 as a man. 0= most women aren’t interested and 1= most women ARE interested. The issue is that most men, as in 90+ percent are considered zeros. It sucks but you just have to come to terms with it.

bittr_n_swt · 2021-11-06T14:56:41+00:00

Are you flirting enough on your first dates? You can carry a conversation well but are you seducing her? You’re not a seductive person so you have to work on that.

Strong eye contact, touch her thighs or shoulder, escalate, be bold. My current gf-on our first date, I literally maintained eye contact, asked her I wanted to kiss her and I did.

Don’t be a friend, be a guy she wants to fuck

ZzTheboss · 2021-11-06T16:21:19+00:00

If you find you’re being too friendly don’t be afraid to ask your next date about something they’re really passionate about or better yet ask them for a controversial opinion just so you get a chance to disagree with them on something.

It goes to show you’re not just trying to be nice but also shows that you care about understanding them on a deeper level.

That’s what I’d do personally but idk, maybe just try different things and see what works

Mrsowrong · 2021-11-06T19:26:09+00:00

Are jerking off?

Title	Same results over and over. Need advice.
Author	pgoodye1
Upvotes	4
Comments	15
Date	November 6, 2021 2:44 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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