I just moved to a new city and I’ve been active on the apps. I’m getting plenty of good matches and in reasonably high volume as well.

Maybe I just need to keep at it, but despite getting plenty of first dates, I’m not getting a whole lot of second dates.

Of the 8 dates I’ve gone on, 3 ghosted/sent a “didn’t feel a spark” text, 3 I wasn’t interested in, and 2 I’m still in touch with. Of the two I’m still talking to, I think one is slow ghosting. Additionally, one of the girls that send a “no spark” text just invited me to go on a trip to Europe with her, just the two of us (???).

None of these dates ended in sex. I was kind of assuming that it would happen naturally on the second+ date. One of my buddies told me that if you don’t have sex with her on the first date you never will, which I know from experience is not strictly true, but he might have a point?

Any ideas on what I’m doing wrong? I’m happy to provide more detail as needed.

Another issue I’m having is my pipeline is getting clogged - I’ve got too many girls on the hook for a first date, and not enough time to meet with them all. How do the successful online daters here deal with this issue? My motivation for going on first dates has also taken a hit given my lack of results.