Seducing Shy Girls

FkinSteve · 2015-11-04T19:12:08+00:00

literally the only type i find myself after lol. what i've noticed is, like you said, is the unfamiliarity with escalation. which is why i sweet talk a lot more than usual, just compliments, eyes/face/short or tall. not necessarily 'flirty' but just nice, warm, wholehearted words; because when you get them to smile it lightss up the goddam room, you know especially when they look down or away, or when their cheeks turn into roses, absolutely cute as hell.

V4refugee · 2015-11-04T20:03:35+00:00

Assume attraction and escalate does work but since she works with you and she is so shy/insecure there is a good chance that other people might start to take notice that you are running game before she gets the hint. If she gets called out on it she might close up. Don't escalate too much at work and try being discreet until you're somewhere where she would feel safe from being judged by her coworkers.

Schtemich · 2015-11-05T14:44:31+00:00

Many people that come across as shy appear that way because they hate superficial interactions: small talk, meaningless greetings, asking dull question about how people's weekends went, etc. They are introverts who crave quality interaction over quantity. The irony is that because they are perceived as shy, and apparently less interested in social engagement, people steer away from the deeper topics they may enjoy, and 'play it safe' - by engaging only in the trivial conversations they hate!

These quiet types spend a lot of time observing the world around them, drawing interesting conclusions - but mostly just to themselves. Encourage them to elaborate. Ask why questions. Describe your funny - and insightful - theories about why people behave the way they do, and leave room for them to share their input. Passively compliment their intelligence by paying attention to what they say, and providing related observations. Be witty, but don't goof about too much.

And escalate slowly: this will be a subtler game than usual. If your approach seems generic or rehearsed you'll struggle. Another way of looking at it is in the context of the old-school Mystery Method stages: Attraction>Comfort>Seduction. With shy girls, don't be too flash in the initial attraction phase. Focus on an attraction/comfort mix right from the start.

Finally, I want to add that in my experience, shy girls are often the most adventurous sexually - but they're very picky about with whom they'll share those adventures. I've had great success talking around sex with shy girls; in one, perfect example, I criticised 50 Shades on the basis that earlier erotic literature was far more debauched - she responded in complete agreement, adding that she had written essays at uni on the Marquis de Sade and The Story of O. We hit it off from there, talking about sex for hours - and indeed doing it that same night. She was... extremely lively.

eric_andre311 · 2015-11-04T21:09:28+00:00

I'm in the same situation right now. I'm working on this really shy and foreign girl at the moment. Planning to go out with her soon but I don't think my normal game will work. I'm just gonna be myself and make it clear that I'm attracted to her until she's comfortable. maybe add in some compliments sprinkled with some teasing and hopefully it should work out.

edit: would love to hear some input from people with experience with this situation

Bodegaz · 2015-11-05T08:17:54+00:00

Shy girls are the easiest to escalate. Escalate = manly, Manly = turns them on. Just keep escalating. They are shy because they are probably inexperienced. Inexperienced girls = naive/easy lays as douchey as it sounds. But that's from my experience.

Title	Seducing Shy Girls
Author	ValuePrestige
Upvotes	11
Comments	5
Date	November 4, 2015 5:42 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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