Sexual Frustration

ntipz011 · 2019-10-15T07:05:51+00:00

Stop watching porn

Andyetwearestill · 2019-10-15T10:09:53+00:00

You sound like have problems with your self-image.

You need to build yourself and be who YOU want to be and not who others want you to be (within the frame of desency and normality of course). Therefore, you should consider exploring other sides of yourself besides sexuality.

When you are confident with who you are then others will be aswell and would want to socialise etc.

mojo_mast · 2019-10-15T17:50:50+00:00

You said your problem is "coping with living without satisfaction from a woman". It also seems like your poor self image and continued sexual frustration are leading you down a downward spiral where having that dissatisfaction, creates a worse social life and worse response from women, which in turn makes you more hopeless. There are two solutions two this. Both solutions require taking on a radically different paradigm of the world. The first paradigm is that this downward spiral is so horrible that nothing could justify staying in it. From that premise you have to start taking action away from this spiral, however doubtful you might be. The second premise is, you are the observer of you're emotions. You have the capability to meditate on your emotions and not to be invested in them. Quite clearly they are holding yourself back so it's only in your best interest that you stop giving a fuck about them. Instead use them as positive inspiration. "Damn, my hind brain is so horny and filled with self doubt and destruction, wouldn't it be amazing if I used that as fuel toward taking positive action instead of festering in it?"

Now what that positive action would be, all the self help shtick, working out, meditating, career, blah blah. This is all important, don't ignore it. But the most effective solution to your problem, as some one with not the best social skills, is to learn cold approach. It is an avenue where you can fuck up as many times as you need to with no consequences other than your own ego being bruised. Now if you set your goal in cold approach to fuck the first girl you meet, you will feel like a failure and start that downward spiral. Instead of facing this problem and taking on the identity of the weird horny guy who is frustrated, adopt a solution to the problem. One solution is you lower your criteria for success. Just an approach, approach establishing a man to woman premise, approach not caring what she thinks of you, and slowly work your way up. Something that is process orientated and not results orientated. First make the decision to win, have the belief in wanting to win be so great that you can easily throw away your bad self image in service of the goal. Then focus on the actions you can take to bring yourself to that goal (process orientated, solution and not identity focused).

Title	Sexual Frustration
Author	FrostySalt818
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	October 15, 2019 6:07 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/di3l3r/sexual_frustration/
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