Shit test / Red Flag Analysis : "Do you think I'm slutty?"

padanis76 · 2018-03-03T02:09:43+00:00

Girl is a sure fire slut. Don’t put that pussy on a pedestal. AWALT. If she’s super fine and keeps giving it up like a good girl then fine - keep hitting it but wrap it up since she is giving pussy up around town with who knows how many. Otherwise next her. Don’t let her take control.

MarTweFah · 2018-03-03T02:49:46+00:00

If a girl gives it up to you without making you work for it, you have to expect that she's given it up to a few other guys as well the same way.

Be mindful of that when considering wifing a thot.

throwaway4target-yay · 2018-03-03T05:09:27+00:00

Dude this girl would fit right in on /r/festivalsluts. You care way too much and it is disgusting. Don't say I'm being crass, it's disgusting, and you say so yourself - "It felt gross". I would say the emphasis is mine, but that wouldn't be true now would it.

She asked you the question because she wanted more validation from you, as if making you deal with her bullshit and bending you to her will making you do things like her sub slave "in extreme circumstances" wasn't already enough validation haha. She knows she is slutty, which is why she wanted the gratification of making you state the opposite. And you gave it to her. Like you said - "gross".

If you have any self respect left you will use this loss as a learning opportunity. Don't go around letting people take advantage of you doing their bidding like a damn slave- she honestly made you a BDSM slave without your consent- and especially don't let yourself be used like this again under the pretense of "love". It's absolutely "gross". Disgusting and really, truly "gross". That is the biggest take away. Then once you have developed that level of self respect, and only then, should you concern yourself with witty responses to a fuck buddy's one liners. Only once you are equals as fuck buddies, which you absolutely by no stretch of the imagination were here, neither equals nor fuck buddies.

For example-

"Am I a slut"

"Looks like it" said with a sarcastic grin and a wink and followed by pinching her ass and a passionate kiss. (If said in bed, otherwise cut out the ass grab depending on the setting)

But in your case you are already so far behind that the words of one liners won't make up for your actions of allowing yourself to be taken advantage of.

I know that was harsh, but honestly a kick in the ass is exactly what you could use right now.

perversealt · 2018-03-03T07:03:06+00:00

This probably isn’t a shit test. Maybe it’s a red flag, but is something lots of girls have to deal with. Personally I don’t care if a woman has a lot of sexual experience (so long as it isn’t nearing intense perversion). But years of social conditioning have made many women sensitive to the word ‘slut’ and the idea of sexual promiscuity. She wants to have sex, but she doesn’t want to be known as a person who does it too carelessly. It is hard to assure yourself of this when speaking with others, but it’s a lot easier to be vulnerable when you along and just did the deed. She is just being open with you.

On the other hand, she could just be checking your response to examine your thoughts on hookup culture and see if you’re suitable to continue seeing. But that seems like a rare thing. And I wouldn’t really call that a shit test either. You would be able to tell by her delivery.

tony18215 · 2018-03-03T02:51:22+00:00

Well first you just hooked up with her..so maybe it didn't mean anything to her.Also she just kissed a guy ..maybe she was drunk ..also doesn't mean she fucked him.If it bothers you so much then tell her ..

frogma · 2018-03-03T10:04:11+00:00

Like perversealt said, it's more of an in-between, I think.

Yes, the fact that she recently made out with another guy means that she doesn't give much of a shit about you -- unless and/or until you become a couple.

Also -- just in general, I tend to treat concerts and shit the same way I would treat Vegas... what happens there, stays there. Think of it like an 80's movie where whatshisname gets Molly Ringwald -- she'll never actually talk to him, ever again. Good for him though, cuz he'll probably just get hotter chicks anyway.

Yes, it's an admission of slutiness. Yes, it's because part of them feels insecure about it.

If your "red flag" is the fact that she made out with some guy, then no, definitely don't bother with her anymore. Because she will continue to do the same. But now, at least, you know where your "line" is.

It would only be considered a "shit-test" if she was saying it as some sort of joke and/or didn't make out with a dude afterward. As it stands, she's just a girl who gets around (I won't call her a "slut," because that's not necessarily true, but she's willing to make out with random guys -- I'd make out with plenty of random girls if given the chance, so I can't blame her for it).

Edit to mention: Similar to my mention of Vegas, you also should treat these interactions as one-time things, not some sort of serious thing. It's just a show, where you both like the band, and you're probably drunk and/or drugged in some fashion. Just have fun at the show, and leave it at that. If it happens to go any further, that's great, but don't ever plan on that, or hope for it. Cuz it generally won't work out the way you would've wanted.

vitamann · 2018-03-03T12:34:02+00:00

This is called a shit test. And you royally failed it. You can find A LOT of information on how to pass this test all over the web. Try this sub right here, read the Guides, etc.

LingeringGnome · 2018-03-03T20:14:19+00:00

Her: Do you think I'm slutty?

You: Yes, and I love it.

Until a woman says "we're exclusive", she can kiss who she wants.

It's important to remember that attractive women on the 8/9/10 scale will have active social lives, and numerous male orbiters. By being emotionally-centered, good in bed, fun, and positive, she will organically choose you and slowly fade the others from her life as she falls in love with you and has "the talk" (IE, be my exclusive boyfriend).

This is how attractive men and women with many options operate. It's just science.

Do you want to date beautiful women, or nuns? Take your pick.

As far as your other question, I don't take offense at any of this behavior. I prefer strong, sexually-liberated and non-conservative women because they're just more fun and exciting (for a variety of reasons). These also tend to be the women that take good care of themselves.

Also, I have found this whole "slutty" judgement from men projected onto women comes from men who aren't all that experienced, or who struggle with women.

Women are not magical, pristine princesses. They love sex, and like it dirty, like you and I. Maybe dirtier. And often, these powerful emotions of jealousy or controlling behavior is really just masking the fact that the guy is kind of turned on, and is having a soup of emotions he can't quite decipher.

When you begin to accrue physical experiences with them, this stigma will fade.

SpinPlates · 2018-03-03T04:05:28+00:00

"Only God can judge you...now suck my dick"

Title	Shit test / Red Flag Analysis : "Do you think I'm slutty?"
Author	ThatSheetIsBananasYo
Upvotes	10
Comments	9
Date	March 3, 2018 1:18 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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