should i text her?

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GKoala · 2025-11-27T15:02:32+00:00

Let me tell you no one is that special my guy. It might seem like it, but what you had exists out there with someone else as well and often than not even better.

Long8D · 2025-11-27T14:30:47+00:00

Nah, you're overthinking it, man. If she genuinely wanted something with you, she wouldn’t have pulled back with that whole line. People who really want you don’t create distance but they look for ways to keep you around. Texting her now to tell her you miss talking to her won’t make her suddenly change her mind. It’ll only put you in a position where you look like you're chasing someone who already told you she’s not sure. There’s no reason to hand over that kind of power.

The best thing you can do is give it time. Let her feel what life is like without your attention for a bit. If she reaches out again or if you feel like messaging her later on, you can do that but keep it light and gauge how she responds. If she’s still distant or unsure or not really engaging, then you have your answer. There's no point to force something that’s not naturally there. Plus you said you're already talking to different girls so focus on them for now.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-11-27T14:43:54+00:00

You said you’re not desperate but you sound desperate.

Lemme get this right: what’s the purpose of you telling her that you miss her so bad? You just wanna vent out or let her know? Or you want her to reciprocate/feel the same way?

OpinionThink481 · 2025-11-27T15:50:02+00:00

Women don’t care that you miss them, they only care how they feel about you, so telling them that you miss them is not really a reason for them to give you more attention.

Quite the opposite, it makes them feel like you are asking them to fix your internal mood of longing.

It’s like saying handling her a job: “_Hey my mood is down, so something to fix it/make me feel better_”. It like you flip the roles where you become the needy kid who needs mommy to soothe you.

Never outsource your mood to her validation or attention. Never make any comment that suggests your life is worst/sadder/leas fun, without a particular woman because being independent is a fundamental part of what makes a man attractive.

The mindset you need to have is “I might want you, but i don’t need you”. If you say you miss her, thats no longer i want you thats i need you to feel good and thats unnatractive.

If she were massively invested in you, you could say sporadically that you miss her, but in this case she is not invested, so don’t do it. The idea she must get is that life is so thriving and fun that you simply can’t miss her.

If anything she is the one who should tell you she misses you, because and when she feels her life is clearly worst without you. That’s when her attraction levels for you goes up.

Dynamix86 · 2025-11-27T16:21:00+00:00

Don’t. And if she is not ready for a relationship right now, that either means she’s not into you enough or she wants to sleep around. In none of these cases it’s a good idea to persist

Lolo_PM · 2025-11-27T16:09:00+00:00

I can totally relate. I had a connection w someone that, at the time, I couldn’t date. I don’t know if the person is still available or even interested. I reached out one time and got no response. I’m just confused bc there was serious flirting and connection. I know that some time has passed and I don’t know how to reconnect w this person w out being creepy.

fiqri1999 · 2025-11-27T14:25:49+00:00

text her if you truly miss her, sometimes vulnerability shows strength not weakness (sc: katyofjr).

Title	should i text her?
Author	Top_Measurement_8794
Upvotes	9
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Date	November 27, 2025 2:22 PM UTC (8 months ago)
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