Should you open up on first dates/first coffee with a girl? Is it attractive?

randalgraves1 · 2014-07-29T01:34:27+00:00

a shared secret creates instant connection between two strangers

New first date idea: covering up a murder

Pit_Sweat · 2014-07-28T19:24:50+00:00

Yes there's a word for that it's called vulnerability.

Except 1) Do not lie 2) know the difference between "opening up" and telling a pity story.

SexySmexxy · 2014-07-28T20:15:30+00:00

Is it a good move to share a secret, a personal thing (even a lie) to a girl you just met? Is it attractive from the opposite?

People aren't going to dislike you for opening up to them.

At the end of the day though if it's not the kind of person you are then it just won't work.

You can't pretend in a relationship, well, not for long anyways.

If you just wanna fuck them then do whatever you want, not like it matters.

SiXXEros · 2014-07-29T02:38:14+00:00

Yes. Telling stories that show a deeper piece of your personality create sparks of genuine attraction.

szukai · 2014-07-30T15:15:33+00:00

Sharing silly secrets always work - especially when it concerns a mutual 3rd party. It can be turned into a game.

yummyluckycharms · 2014-07-28T23:18:10+00:00

Women love mystery - every time you strip some of that mystery away, you need to replace it with something that creates attraction

example:

"I wonder how much he makes" thinks a woman

A1. Oh he makes 6 figures - YES! A2. Oh - he makes minimum wage - time to dump him

Secondly, women follow cultural norms in terms of what they find attractive such as men paying for dates. They dont like weak or feminine men, and vulnerable men aren't strong. If you need further proof, look at the article that is making the rounds regarding attraction and supportive statements between the genders

trustmeiminnocent · 2014-07-29T00:33:57+00:00

Yeah, I tell girls sometimes that I lie on my kitchen floor and pretend I'm a bread crumb.

...

Seriously, don't tell a girl that. Especially if it's not true.

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Title	Should you open up on first dates/first coffee with a girl? Is it attractive?
Author	silver_light
Upvotes	12
Comments	14
Date	July 28, 2014 7:19 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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