Shower thought: The process of seduction should feel easy. If it doesn’t, then she’s probably not into you.

2022-08-13T07:00:08+00:00

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Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-08-13T14:35:30+00:00

Wise point.

CometAzur42069 · 2022-08-13T16:09:15+00:00

90% of the time this is true in western dating culture.

The fact is, most dudes who cant find women, merely dont even initiate or find enough women to meet. They will lie and make excuses that women dont come flying to their bed despite putting zero effort in trying to be attractive (even putting in 50% effort improves your chances tenfold)

Once you’re at an okay level of attraction (because most people arent naturally attractive by definition) you’ll get plenty of opportunities, all you have to do is LEAD. They will make it so obviously easy that way.

VanillaCider2021 · 2022-08-13T17:04:15+00:00

I agree with this. mostly, but this is not always the case

However ALL girls are wired diffrently.

Sometimes a girl will reciprocate equally or more and you know it's in the bag.

Another girl might show you reciprocation sometimes but not seem to be as equal. Maybe she is a bad texter, maybe she is shy, maybe she wants you to lead, maybe she is being cautious - That doesn't mean she doesn't like you. Maybe it means you need to be more patient.

If a girl has no interest in you then she will either tell you or ghost you. As long as she is planning dates or responding to your texts within a few hours then she's interested.

recyclablebanthas · 2022-08-13T17:18:54+00:00

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It should feel easy. You shouldn’t be guessing. If two people are attracted to each other and talk, it should show. Or at least slip through. And you’ll be seducing eachother. It’s a team effort.

Yes.... But also....

If someone does not have the fundamentals down then all of this will be out of reach due to constant second guessing, not knowing how to open, not having the confidence to make moves, not being able to calibrate properly, etc.

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If you always find yourself guessing, then it’s probably a no. Get real confirmation and move on to the next girl

Again, yes, but....

Unless someone has the fundamentals down, then they won't recognize this and will be second guessing regardless of whether the girl is interested.

And a lot of guys who don't have the fundamentals down, may seek to "get real confirmation," by accidentally skipping over good escalation technique to try to awkwardly "confess" their feelings and/or desires.

Overall, what you've posted is true, but it's like the phrase, "just be yourself." It may not help without more context for those building up from the bottom.

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Humans are all a mix of logic and emotion.

The difference is that society typically doesn't encourage men to develop emotional intelligence.

This is plain as day when it comes to things like suicide. Men often succeed at their attempts more than women and it's frequently because we often keep everything bottled up and there's a stigma against asking for help.

Paddy Pimblet, a fighter in the UFC, hit on this issue in a recent victory speech.

We need to stop this nonsense about men being logical and women being emotional. Humans are clearly both.

Title	Shower thought: The process of seduction should feel easy. If it doesn’t, then she’s probably not into you.
Author	Environmental_Cress2
Upvotes	25
Comments	7
Date	August 13, 2022 5:11 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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