Hey i am 32m and been trying to get better but i have poor game and i have been getting away from things that hold me back.

Relying too much alcohol

Too much porn and masturbation

Trying to work on myself

Hygiene

Self care

I Waste time with dating apps. I believe I’m meeting women who all want the same thing from a man. I seem to be meeting women who want expensive experiences and they seem to don’t respect me or waste my time with pointless texting, instead of meeting up. In my opinion “what you do for work” is the biggest turn off for a question or conversation because i feel they’re tryna pocket watch

I been sober fron porn and nasturbation for a month now and i have alot more time doing things, but i want some advice on how i can improve my dating life.

i get matches and likes from unattractive women and or women im not attracted to on dating apps and the ones i find attractive seem to play hard to get, wanting too much on first date,time wasting and all admitting to getting therapy for their dating life.

I honestly wanna do better in person but lack the confidence to approach, Because of my living situation

Can yall give me pointers on how yall began attracting above average women as a a average man currently building himself.