Small Talk

Shadow180 · 2015-03-09T13:35:48+00:00

Try talking in front of mirror. Try talking with strangers like asking for a place or a address. It will help you to get over with your shy nature.

penguin_says_slide · 2015-03-09T13:44:27+00:00

There.

DaygameCoach · 2015-03-09T19:41:34+00:00

Talk about things you are interested in or passionate about and it ISN'T small talk. No need to talk about the weather.

nor_iqhwan · 2015-03-09T15:23:52+00:00

You can start with reading some books on conversations and communication. It will improve not only cold approaches but your life as well in many aspects with anyone and everyone. Once you understood the core concepts, I suggest practicing it. I practiced on social apps or what ever you call it. What I did was start chats with random users, regardless of age and gender. It all came naturally when I applied it in real life, a few seconds of anxiety but then I felt relaxed and engaged in the conversation.

ymiapheramone · 2015-03-09T21:01:01+00:00

Small talk is really just you guys taking turns to talk about yourself. A lot of the times people don't do small talk very well for whatever the reason. Since its a 2-way road you won't be able to have a conversation with someone who isn't giving anything back.

Horehey34 · 2015-03-11T21:37:00+00:00

Are you good at talking to people when you have had a drink?

I don't shut up once I have had a drink or some bugle.

I just think about what I was saying when I was talking shit and just try to act like that normally, the only thing that holds you back is the anxiety of looking stupid.

Once you don't give a shit it just flows.

I was kicking a ball about by myself (I do a lot of shit by myself because why the fuck not) and this kid comes over, must be like 3 and his mum is trying to stop him and I'm like "Does he want a kickabout, haha" She was clearly a little stumped that I had said something, almost stumbled over her words to tell me "no".

"He can go in goal if he likes" she just laughed awkwardly and walked off.

I found that interaction pretty fucking funny. She was so awkward. Whereas I just gave no fucks.

In contrast I have said this thing before and other people have laughed and I have had a proper conversation with them.

You'll find more people are awkward then you.

Just go for the simple things "oh hey man, whats up, what have you been up to recently? Hows work? hows college?"

Its easy to branch off from there, you end up finding common ground them the conversation flows easily.

Helps if you go out a lot, and if you are like me and all your mates live fucking miles away. You should go out and do shit by yourself, gives you things to talk about.

Title	Small Talk
Author	dang70
Upvotes	3
Comments	13
Date	March 9, 2015 1:30 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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