Solo pickup for the first time

nanashi007 · 2018-10-13T09:26:38+00:00

Dont feel bad about it. There is so much fish out there and getting not hocked in couple of tries didn’t mean that anything wrong or to feel sad about.

Statistically going solo is bad ass move in itself and being new to this, i know how bad you feel once rejections come your way. Bcz when in group its different.

Nutshell, just keep going solo. Its bit hard initially but you’ll get some amazing results in some time.

And always remember CONFIDENCE is the key.

basedMrSir · 2018-10-13T09:46:49+00:00

Wow dude I have the same story, tonight, except I didn’t end up in the strip club (even though I thought about it) only because I read somewhere that it’s extremely overpriced if you think about it.

Also... I only had small talk with maybe a handfull of girls, I did not make any direct approaches so you win by a landslide.

Good shit dude, I plan to do this weekly hopefully.

Clbull · 2018-10-13T11:51:18+00:00

Well good on you for having the balls to go out solo. Maybe dudes frequented the places you went to which is why you had so much competition. Plus, I assume SF is San Francisco? Damn.

You could have approached with something more interesting than "hi, what's your name?" I mean the goal is trying to stand out from the crowd.

poopfeast180 · 2018-10-14T01:05:44+00:00

Anyways, it was a relatively uneventful night (didn't get any numbers or anything). And feeling dejected, I found myself at a strip club at the end of the night.

Don't do that. You're gonna make it a habit.

If you feel like shit because the night sucked just go home and feel like shit and sleep it off. And remember it's part of the process. Every day is a restart, what happened before is irrelevant.

greenpoe · 2018-10-13T18:43:43+00:00

It's understandable to feel bad after what feels like a failure, but remember that you're like a character in a game on level 2, you've got a long way to go if that's only your first night going solo. Mark Manson (author of Models) said he was going out 4 or 5 nights a week - not just on weekends, not just when he felt like it.

You've gotta find value in the incremental successes. If you've Remember to lower your expectations of success. If you said hi, that is a success! You approached! If you're 100% comfortable approaching then think of a compliment that they might not normally receive or some way to make the conversation more natural.

If you don't really like bars or clubs maybe you'd be better suited to day game? Or perhaps looking for events and things you enjoy? The ideal situation is that if you enjoy dancing then go to dance clubs or dance classes to meet girls.

What you can do is live your life in the moment, then reflect on your actions and figure out what you can do to improve afterward - after a night out, do a bit of studying.

It's like, yeah it's awful. But was Michael Phelps a gold medalist the first time he swam? No he spent thousands of hours swimming.

But hey, this is when it's really good to write stuff down, like physically on a piece of paper, or digitally if you prefer. Write down your goals, what your strengths are, what you could've done better, you said you felt nervous so then put down conquering your nerves as a positive.

Maggost · 2018-10-14T05:48:36+00:00

I feel like shit. Anybody have any feedback for me?

You can't simply give up after trying to the first time, just keep going out and approaching, never give up. With the time you will see that you will improve your speech, body language and reading.

dailymanup · 2018-10-17T04:47:00+00:00

Check out these 100 mindsets man. Sounds like you got the guts, you just need a few tweaks. Also make sure to up your sexual frame.

Not_creative_fun · 2018-10-19T03:50:16+00:00

My feedback is: Why are you being so hard on yourself? Why do you feel dejected? You had bigger balls than all the guys staying at home.

Title	Solo pickup for the first time
Author	user_4569001432
Upvotes	23
Comments	12
Date	October 13, 2018 9:00 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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