1 - You don’t need to be an “alpha”. You just need to have a strong sense of self respect, be capable of making decisions, and understand how to set and enforce boundaries.

2 - Confidently expressing vulnerability is the sexiest thing a high value man can do. You can’t have connection without vulnerability. You won’t fuck a lot of women you don’t connect with.

3 - Actively pursuing women who you think are likely to have similar interests and values as yourself will make your hit rate go up dramatically. If you’re an introverted gamer, don’t go for the overly dolled up club girl. Go to a hipster dive bar. There are plenty of hot ass girls that play games or are at least cool with them.

4 - Double texting is okay. Neediness is not. Understand the difference.

5 - Girls like dorks. They just don’t like needy guys. Girls like nice guys. They just don’t like needy guys.

6 - Don’t just take rejection gracefully - respect a woman’s decision to reject you. Head over to r/creepypms or r/niceguys and read. Women expect most dudes they reject to flip out on them. By not flipping out on them, you’re showing them that you’re better than 90% of the dudes they meet. To take this further, if a woman rejects you, genuinely wish her a good day and let her know there are no hard feelings. If you actually adopt this attitude, you’ll begin to give off positive and safe vibes, and your approach success rate will go up.

7 - Sub communication is everything. Everything you say, and even things you don’t say, is a form of communication. And honestly, you can’t fake this shit. You communicate when you put clothes on. You communicate when you do or don’t make eye contact as you say something. You communicate when you hesitate to approach. Stop trying to have the perfect opener. Stop trying to have the perfect level of wittiness. Boring ass conversation about her job can be amazing if you just have good sub communication.

8 - Be a good fucking listener. You don’t have to be constantly entertaining her. Listening empathetically creates connection. See #2.

9 - Focus on her emotions. Ask her how something made her feel instead of if she liked something. Ask her about her feelings. Tell her about your feelings. Express emotions. Tell her about the time you cried in a movie. Women love emotions. They hate guys who are emotionally walled off. Just don’t be NEEDY and emotions are fine.

10 - Show intent. Whether you’re direct or indirect doesn’t matter verbally because your sub communication should ALWAYS be direct. Kino escalation. Eye contact. Smiling. Listening. You are a man who goes for what he is interested in. You are interested in her, so show some fucking intent. Stop hiding it out of fear of rejection. Stop hiding it because you’re afraid that you have to push pull and play games. These things will come naturally and appropriately if you first just show intent and have fun.