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[–]jagermeistr 1 point2 points3 points 14 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
"Alright, let's go have sex."
If a girl is truly willing to have sex with someone she just met at a bar or club, she isn't going to be offended by much. Wouldn't worry about being a sleaze. I don't have a ton of same night lays (I tend to think their prevalence is exaggerated), but when I have it's usually when I was just acting like it was a forgone conclusion. I'm not sure if this is me just reading signals correctly or it was one of those situations where your confidence just explodes for no particular reason and everything you say works. Probably a little of both.
I think I've made the mistake in the past of playing the question game, "So, you wanna get out of here?". Doesn't work. In any case, the best play here is to swing for the fences in my opinion.
[–]assholebiker 1 point2 points3 points 14 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I would veto that. Now that you've explicitly named the game, she might feel slutty going home with you knowing that you're going to have sex. Women in "don't be a slut" society have a brain that thinks separately from the body. Give the brain a plausible excuse, or at least don't set its alarm off, and the body will have permission to do what it wants. If she wants to lie to herself about what it means when she goes home with you, don't get in her way.
Interestingly, this is the difference between being a slut and not: it's not slutty if you have plausible deniability.
But, your mileage may vary. This isn't a science and some guys swear by direct.
[–]_aserettt 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
plausible deniability
explain further?
[–]assholebiker 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She needs to have the ability to plausibly claim that she was innocent (e.g. you were too charming, she thought you were just going back to watch youtube videos) to herself and often also to plausibly claim that she was innocent (e.g. it didn't happen since no one she knows saw it) to her friends.
[–]_aserettt 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
otherwise, she's a slut. if he's hot, she's horny, and they're both DTF. that makes her a slut.
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[–]iznou 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honesty is the best game.
[–]assholebiker 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"You ready to get out of here?"
Sometimes, she's just waiting for you to ask.
[–]rmbarnes 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Why do women go to clubs?
[–]_aserettt 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
i go to bring home sexy boytoys. ;)
[–]rmbarnes 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. Op needs to realise that many girls go to clubs for reasons like this. Once he truly believes this then he won't be worrying about what to say to get a girl home.
[–]Jayhawkerr 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Have you tried disqualifying yourself? Once you have obvious signs she is into you, try saying things to the effect, "I'm so busy with work right now," "I just like to have fun, nothing serious," etc.
This plants the seed that you aren't relationship material. She will be more willing to escalate physically because she is already invested in you by k/# closing, and there is no point in holding out on the sex because there is no relationship potential.
[–]ShamwowTseDung -1 points0 points1 point 14 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
So a every night a girl you've never met ends up kissing you and you're questioning whether she does or does not want to have sex?
Or are you worried about your ED problem?
The latter makes moar sense.
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