We’ve discussed all kinds of tactics to get yourself to approach. There’s the “fuck it” method. There’s the “do it to see what happens” method. There’s the “countdown method.” One dude on here a while back was doing the “Pennywise method.” That’s right, he approached chicks at the bar by tossing them a red balloon.

These methods are all great (except I’m not sure about the Pennywise method), and there are certainly dozens more. However, if you’re still unable to approach. If you’re still just standing there. If you still turn into a knees knocking, hands sweating, legs trembling, heart throbbing, mouth babbling, blob of a human being, then here’s another opener for you to consider:

Be honest. Be straight up honest and tell her you’re “nervous as hell.” I personally prefer “nervous as fuck” but you make your own choice.

It’s amazing the kind of relief honesty can provide. When you’re nervous as hell and you approach a woman, trying to appear not nervous as hell, you’re not being honest. You’re hiding something. You’re faking it.

This not only makes you seem awkward in front of her, but it adds tons of weight to your own personal discomfort. There’s enough to think about when approaching a girl. Hiding the fact that you’re nervous is just another thing to think about.

So if you want to try this method, just walk up to her and say:

“Excuse me. I’m really nervous as hell to tell you this, but I think you’re really cute and I wanted to come say hi.”

You should find that by saying that, you will instantly feel much more at ease. It will also put her at ease because you’ve laid your cards out on the table and you’re not trying to be some smooth PUA which she then needs to throw up defenses against.

So when you say it, say it with a huge smile. Not a “I’m pretending to be confident smile” but rather a “what a relief” smile.

If you try this method, I guarantee you will get a huge smile from her and a “thank you” 9 times out of 10. Think about it, almost no girl is going to blast you for hitting on her if you’re straight up honest (and show a touch of vulnerability) right from the start.

Now you’re in. The conversation is open. Take it from there. You won’t get the number or the date every time. No one does. But you will get the number or the date more times than if you just stood there with knees knocking.

Of course, you still should have your grooming and wardrobe put together when you do this. That should go without saying. Being nervous isn’t an excuse for looking like shit.

And if all else fails, try the Pennywise method.