I'm pretty fucked up in the head right now with a case of one girl oneitis. Part of me writing this down is so I can think about it properly.

Met this girl a month ago, we hit it off, thought I had her in the reigns and we had a good thing going. Honestly, we get along pretty well and our personalities click. Last week, bomb drops that she has feelings for her recent ex still and she 'realized it' when she found out he started dating someone (wtf seriously?). Now her ex comes back and tries to get her back and she wants to give it a shot (kinda sucks for me).

And now this is the part that is a shit show. She tells me she has feelings for me but wants to try one last time with her ex. I play it casual and say we can just hangout as friends (but I know that I'm somewhat more invested than I give off). Her ex starts telling her he doesn't want her hanging out with me and after several arguments she agrees and tells me we shouldn't hangout anymore. However, even after this we still hangout a couple of times and after a few more intense arguments with her ex, she finally says even though she has feelings for me we really can't hangout. I'm a little bit disapointed at this point but I say okay and wish her best of luck.

I assume at this point that we'll just stop talking to her and get over it. But she keeps initiating and messaging me throughout the days (which I casually respond to). This also really throws me off.

So I need to figure out what to do at this point. My stupid brain still thinks theres some glimmer of hope (because shes open to contact and is initiating) and I should casually talk to her and play her a bit to try to get her more invested again. It thinks that things won't work out with her ex and that I still have a shot. But the other half of my brain knows I just need to possibly ignore her completely and move on. We do have mutual friends so maybe I should just tell her straight up to stop talking to me for now and give each other some space? But I also know doing that will most likely lead us to being strangers and end any chance in the future.

I know I shouldn't be affect by this and invested as much as I am. I think its because I got to the point where I thought it would enter a more serious relationship and that naturally caused me to be more invested.