What to do when she's clearly interested but scared because you seem like a 'player'?

iluvfemales · 2016-08-28T19:32:23+00:00

I have been in this exact same situation wondering what the hell i should do. It seems that agree & amplify doesn't do it in this situation, because it only adds to her perhaps distorted image of you being a massive player. Any veterans in here with some advice?

MindsEvolve · 2016-08-29T00:26:53+00:00

Have you had "the talk?" If you're ready to start a committed relationship with someone, you're definitely going to have to let them know that at some point. In general, girls very much want commitment..so..you should be golden here.

Best of luck,

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Montecristo_C · 2016-08-29T02:15:58+00:00

I'd say try to relax and talk more naturally versus worrying too much about doing all the right moves to convince her you're "alpha" and such. I think on first impressions you need to try to present yourself well, but overdoing it to the point of seeming unnatural or rehearsed can backfire, if it ends up seeming like an infomercial pitchman or car salesman.

Once you've gotten to know someone you can let down your guard a little - some of the advice out there, such as the "alpha vs beta" advice can backfire if taken too literally, and results in the guy becoming paranoid that if he doesn't put on a show of "alpha" at all times that the girl will cheat on him, and such.

lodro · 2016-08-29T07:56:41+00:00

It's pretty easy: you just mix in touchy feely getting emotionally attached to her honest kind of stuff. In pickup language: act more like a chode.

Don't overdo it, and be genuine. If you think she's awesome, tell her that some time (and include why). Maybe take her for a date that's more stereotypically romantic.

I'd avoid getting too heavy or making some big grandiose statement of intent, though.

You want her to continue thinking of you as a player, but as "her player". She wants to feel like she's won you over, not like you're actually secretly a dweeb.

Also: it isn't clear, but have you banged? If not, you need to get on that asap and repeat several times.

_Saenn_ · 2016-08-28T22:12:39+00:00

You need to decrease your value and give more comfort. Be real and relatable and make her feel like you actually like her and she's not just another girl. RSD Todd has some good videos on this.

Title	What to do when she's clearly interested but scared because you seem like a 'player'?
Author	breakingthehabits
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	August 28, 2016 7:06 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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