Brief bit of background:

Have been seeing a girl for the past few weeks. I fclosed her after the second date. Got loads of LMR, but got round it using what I have learned from reading the Mystery Method. She seemed to have some buyer's remorse afterward, saying she doesn't usually sleep with guys she really likes so quickly.

I set up a third meeting at my flat to watch a DVD a few nights later. She flakes last minute. I realise that she's uncomfortable with how quickly things progressed, and she wants to make sure I don't think she's easy. So when she next texts me I set up a meeting in a bar, and when we meet I back off physically a bit. She asks to come round at the weekend to watch a DVD, but flakes again.

We chat to each other on MSN. I tell her I realise she feels guilty for sleeping with me so quickly, but she shouldn't bother making dates with me if she's just going to cancel. I leave her telling her that the ball's in her court if she wants to see me again, I wouldn't be contacting her.

That was at the weekend, and I didn't expect to hear back from her. Then last night I got a text saying she's been busy all week and is camping this weekend, but do I want to go to the cinema on Wednesday. I say OK, then there is some minor sexual flirting via text.

This morning I was thinking about things, and it feels like she's fucked me about a bit too much for my liking. She's told me she often tries to walk all over guys to see what she can get away with (ie she shit tests a lot), and I just feel she's trying to make me play by her rules. E.g. we meet when she decides, fuck when she wants it... It just feels like she's created a frame of everything being on her terms.

I feel a bit of a chump for agreeing to see her again. The reasons I agreed are as follows:

  1. Her offer genuinely took me by surprise. I wasn't expecting to hear from her after talking to her on MSN. Since I had mentally written her off, I didn't really think about it.

  2. I made the mistake of cutting back on my sarging recently since I had fclosed her. I also had some other options on the go which have since dried up, so for the next couple of weeks she's my only realistic option for sex. I realise now how important still pursuing other women is when your seeing a girl. The abundance mindset created by having options automatically creates the right frame when you interact with a girl, so you don't have to worry about all this shit, it would just come naturally. To be honest, if I had options I'd probably have ignored her text.

What do you guys think I should do? Having a girl calling the shots just feels wrong to me.