Telling the difference between your coworker being into you vs friendly? What are the subtle tells?

norwegiandoggo · 2026-02-18T11:05:56+00:00

In cases like this, if you want to date a co-worker, I would typically ask them out on a "half-way date".

Meaning, you ask her to meet you in private, but make it seem innocent. See if she agrees. Like, get coffee somewhere. Or even a drink after work. Sometimes co-workers might join drinks after work, but see if she sticks around - or stays close to you, you might suggest to go to another cool bar nearby just the two of you, a bit later - and propose this in a way that others don't hear you.

If she's down, she will be happy to accept such invitations to "sneak away" just the two of you. If she agrees to this kind of thing, it's vEEERY likely she's interested.

BUT... Signs are never guarantees. I think that's a mistake you're making - believing there's some guarantee in terms of knowing if someone is really interested. There isn't. Like you said - some women just flirt for fun or to get an ego-boost.

OpinionThink481 · 2026-02-19T10:59:18+00:00

Your problem here is that you are trying to guess a woman’s intentions with you before taking any action, and that’s not happening.

And the thing is her intentions don’t matter, plus are not set in stone, assuming she even has any. Women go with the flow, they don’t have a secret plan where her intentions are linear or set in stone.

They can easily shift one day to another because women are acting based on how the feel in the present moment and how they feel now isnt a guarantee she will feel the same tomorrow or next week as their emotions shift like the weather.

It even can shift as soon as you take action since depending on how you take action a woman can go from interested to not interested in that exact instant if you do it wrong, and vive versa she can go from non interested to interested if you do it right.

If you want guarantees that she is interested before doing anything, sorry but the only guarantee in life is death, even your current job security isnt guaranteed regardless of how professional you are.

Foreverseeking47 · 2026-02-18T09:50:45+00:00

Good for you that you know that you won't pursue anything because you care about keeping this job.

To answer your question, I don't think you should care about that. This is a sign that you are looking for permission to act on what you want and want to be sure that you won't be rejected or look like a fool if you risk going for it. You are interested, take some risk, have fun and escalate a little by being a bit more daring with you touch and see how she reacts. At one point, it juste becomes the next logical step to ask her to do something outside of work.

As always, it is way more effective to act in a way that makes them really want to spend more time with you by being fun and engaging than by being in your head trying to figure out the perfect way to do things.

Long8D · 2026-02-18T08:57:39+00:00

It really depends on how much you value the job.

If it’s just a regular job and you’re not that invested in it, then honestl who cares? Do your thing. At one of my old jobs I was doing electrical work in the city center.

We were outside all the time, people constantly walking by, stopping to chat. I’d flirt with girls right there in front of my boss. I didn’t care, and I knew he wouldn’t either. He’d just laugh.

But an office job is completely different story.

In an office, the space is small and everyone sees everything. People don’t even need to hear what you’re saying all they have to do is watch. And once something becomes a thing it spreads fast and if drama breaksout then you have nowhere to run. It's also worse if you entertain flirting and the entire office knows that either you or the other person has a SO.

karl_ae · 2026-02-18T12:59:05+00:00

Here, this might help

https://youtu.be/xa-4IAR_9Yw?si=-JeW09RT55s8n6II

Title	Telling the difference between your coworker being into you vs friendly? What are the subtle tells?
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Date	February 18, 2026 8:23 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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