Tl;dr: Text to meet up with her. Have an exciting conversation. Don't be too available.

Intro

I’ve noticed a trend of texting discourse here, so I’ve decided to present some basic texting fundamentals that have served me well.

Texting is a low-effort form of communication. It’s easy to do. You can do it anywhere. Hell, you can do it with one hand. But it is a game and if you're not playing it right, you're going to lose.

The trick with texting is to push-pull; don’t over invest, and don’t get attached to one girl until she climbs into bed with you. Keep your eyes on the prize, and that prize is getting laid.

That said, let's get to the core principles.

Texting is for Logistics

Don’t text her for the sake of texting her. Text her so you can see her again.

You should be texting to move things forward to a date. If you’re just chatting with her all day, you might as well be buddies with her rather than seeing or dating her.

Women will not initiate a date. They’re not gonna ask out guys they find attractive. They’ll smile and giggle and talk a big game, but in the end, you’re gonna have to get over your fear of rejection and take a risk to make something happen.

Be a leader. A confident, dominant leader. Nothing is more desirable to a woman than a guy who makes shit happen.

Sure, you’ll have to have conversations that are more than just “Let’s go on a date” but the ultimate goal is to hang out in person and tell her a bedtime story that could include oral.

This means showing her that you already have a good time with her, you’re interested in her more intimately, and you are most definitely interested in fucking her.

If you get flaked on, or if you don’t get confirmation of the date at least a day before, you can chalk it off as not a big deal. As long as you weren’t spending money on a train or a plane ticket or some crazy shit to make it happen.

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You need to strike a balance between being exciting and showing you’re a normal guy that can hold a conversation.

Women will be feeling you out through text to make sure you’re not a Patrick Bateman wanna be. So you want to build comfort. Get her emotionally invested. Make her think that you are actually interested in more than how nice her ass is.

Be chill, lecherous, and self-assured. You want to get her excited about seeing you.

Who the fuck cares what she had for breakfast this morning, how she is having a good hair day, or that she went to the library. That’s boring. You don’t want to talk about that. She'll start treating you like a buddy in the friendzone.

I like my banter to have an undertone of sexual tension. When you meet with her later, the point is to have sex. That's the way it is. So, going hand-in-hand (get it), focus on teasing and having a funny, confidence-ridden exchange.

Just don’t try to be overly gamey or seductive. Women have a B.S. detector to rival Superman's. Your canned lines won’t pass.

Don’t be too Available

Don't text her all day every day. We don't want a pen pal, alright? That’s what inmates are for.

I know it's very, very tempting to text her often but if you do that you're going to kill the vibe. Rather than bombard her phone with your inane, boring text messages, you should do the complete opposite.

If a girl texts you, do not respond immediately. Make her wait.

Let her wonder what you're up to and if she has your attention. Make her curious, eager to see you. You want to be so busy doing interesting and exciting shit that you don't have time to text her back right away. She will be eager to reply to you.

Women are like cats. An ignored cat will always come back to you.

Don't beg

One of the worst things you can do is to keep texting her even though she's not responding. Every time you double text her, you're steadily dropping in value in her eyes. She gets 20 texts every fucking day from dudes who want the same thing as you.

A better approach is to simply never double text. Obviously, like any rule, there are exceptions. But for the early stages, you’re better off not spamming her.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that she literally must respond to you. Assume she’s busy.

If you keep texting her, you're only going to make yourself look desperate and she's likely to ghost you. It's better to just let it go.

Never come off as a romantic novelist. If you need to send an essay in text form, start a Google Doc, text her a link, and inform her she’s not getting further replies until she opens that link.

Conclusion

There is a lot to text game, and we just covered the basics. I could write more in-depth posts about each point.

Texting is a means to an end. The goal is to build comfort, confirm the date, and meet up to do the dirty. Just be cool, be amusing, be aloof, and be a little bit of a dick.

That's it, guys. Remember these pointers, and then glide effortlessly towards having some boner-inducing fun.