The day after a date

Radicalmattitude1 · 2021-01-22T04:10:22+00:00

You should be getting to the point on the first date where she wants to have sex with you. That doesn’t mean you should always have sex on the first date. But the reason that you don’t have sex should be because you choose to make her wait, NOT because she doesn’t want to.

If you turn her on so much that she goes home thinking about having sex with you, she’ll come back for more. When she comes back for more, give her good sex and she’ll come back for more good sex. And on and on and that’s how you get her to stick around.

STD_Tyler · 2021-01-22T09:32:21+00:00

Lol bro, you try to fuck them on first date. Some of them get disappointed if you don't. And other's think if there is no sex first date then the connection is not strong enough.

Forget this flowers and walking to the car shit you see in movies. This ain't hollywood son.

BruddaRed · 2021-01-22T04:10:03+00:00

Okay let's break this down, after all that's my favorite thing to do.

You mention this is a recurring problem so there's definitely a pattern to be found her. By the look of it, you're landing plenty of online dates so your looks aren't the problem based on the rate of matches. But what could it be exactly?

You explain that you walk them to their car and embrace in a close hug. Ooooh there's our problem!!! You should seek to have sex on the first date, if not at the very least kiss her. But how do you pull that off you might be wondering. The kiss close or full close are something you will build up to throughout the night as you continue to touch her through KINO, the words you say, the laughs you share, ect. These are just a few examples. Your next mistake was letting them know you were interested in seeing them again. You should NEVER setup or imply there is going to be another date in the near future. Always make them go home wondering if you'll ever follow-up, then when/if you do, they will immediately get that butterfly feeling in their stomach when your name pops up on their phone. Also, I want to note that the reason these girls say "Sure" to future date is for the simple fact that women don't like confrontation. It's easier to let you down later when she's gone home than it would have been to do so in person.

Next, there is no rule for when you text her. Only socially inept people believe in this dumb rule. It's always better to strike while the iron is hot. If she hasn't hit you up first, you can always hit her up yourself when you've got the time and are going out. For example, two days from your first date you could text her, "Wassup Jane, I'm feelin some tacos HEAVY rn and wanted to invite you to go grab some, you free today?"

Reach out to me if you would like to discuss this in further detail.

2021-01-22T21:28:48+00:00

I think the 3 days rule is from the olden times. Like before the internet and stuff.

I think giving a compliment the next day is effective. Not "what a nice time" but something specific.

meatloafnwaffles · 2021-01-22T23:50:47+00:00

Basic growing pains. I’m sure most those girls are bums. Find a woman who has a lot going for her, and pursue her!

You date a girl for 6 months, and realize how trash she is, and you’d wish she didn’t go in that second date.

Take a rejection as a good sign!

ChienLov3r · 2021-01-22T03:49:35+00:00

Sounds to me like they just didn't feel the spark or connection after hanging out and may not want to keep seeing you if they dont see it going anywhere. With online dating, there are so many people to meet that it can feel like a waste of everyone's time to keep seeing someone who didn't elicit a spark

johnbugara · 2021-01-22T06:04:17+00:00

I'm sure there's a lot more you could do better but don't say maybe we should hang out again tell them I want to see you again or anything that sounds more confident and certain. dont ask them, tell them what you want. and texting the next day would kind of make you look needy or like you don't have much of a life outside of them

stuff_of_legend · 2021-01-22T10:18:27+00:00

You objective on the date should be to take her home, not a hug or getting a second date. Try taking the next girl home and try kissing her, you'll see how easy you get the second date when you push the first date to the absolute limit, even if it doesn't work, it gets her invested.

Dodechaedron · 2021-01-22T20:27:27+00:00

You are saying that the dates went well .. well, judging by the follow-up, it seems not and what's worse, the poor outcome is repetitive. Something to do with being needy and asking for a second date? Going for the physical contact without a green light signal? What is that you do every time, because this might be the clue?

2021-01-22T21:44:38+00:00

" Eventually we would stop talking or a couple of them realized they were too busy in their personal life for dating. " It's possible that they're not lying, but this is a classic rejection. Like, if they really were busy, they wouldn't be out dating, they'd make time for you, or they'd find a way to keep you in the loop in spite of everything that they're busy with

chickensandwich626 · 2022-10-11T08:35:30+00:00

I hate stalking random Armo profiles sometimes becuz I find stuff like this 😂 who the hell needs to learn how to manipulate women to get a second date 💀

Title	The day after a date
Author	iReignFirei
Upvotes	9
Comments	34
Date	January 22, 2021 3:41 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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