Okay, so i didn't really know how to title this post, but I like funnels, they're a cool shape and investment really seems to be the best part of my life right now.

Let me provide a little caveat. I'm no guru, i'm not even pro. I'm pretty amateur myself so take this or leave it. Maybe i'm blind leading the blind, but hopefully this will resonate with at least one or two people and help them out.

One thing i notice on this thread is a number of guys asking for advice given certain situations or encounters that they have recently had. Not only that, they also want some advice related to an upcoming date or asking a girl out and trying to get her. There's no shame in that, the whole community is geared towards this kind of thing and i am certainly not discouraging these kinds of posts. The community helps its contributors and is a great great thing.

However, one running thread i've seen through all of this is that people really do seem to be heavily investing in a single girl and are ultimately asking questions for which they probably already have an answer.

  • "Should i text, she flaked?"
  • "How do i get her to ...?"
  • "Some girl i saw once in a galaxy far far away.... "

I am paraphrasing a littke and don't mean to make light of these guys' situation. But I think that the problems are all arising because you're simply too invested in a single girl. Other than being hot, smiling, and maybe friendly have they really given you anything more than basic pleasantaries or a hardon? I am not suggesting that you re-jig your interactions so you can get more out of them only pointing out the fact that they've really displayed very little to deserve so much investment.

They might be great people, but you don't know that until you know them better. They might be the best sexual partner ever, but you don't know that yet. They might be the future mother of your kids... but until you have any kind of reason to invest in the girl then you probably shouldn't. It gives them control of the situation and will ultiamtely make you feel like shit when you feel as if you're running around after these girls who are all flaking on you, making you self conscious or question your own worth because you're too scared to say something to them after an initial conversation.

If you're not really dealing with more than 3-5 girls simultaneously, or have good self-discipline (read: are relatively new at this) then chances are you'll end up getting too invested in a single girl.

This has happened to me a number of times. That whole "I don't give a fuck" attitude really shines through when you have another 4-6 girls who are willing to be introduced personally to your swollen goods - or have been for the past couple of weeks.

So, what i'm trying to say, is that before writing a post related to this topic, have a think to yourself and ask. "Am i being too invested in this single girl? Do I have 3-4 other girls who i'm gaming at the moment?". If the answer is negative then I'd suggest you put that girl on temporary back burner and just go out, meet some other people, flirt, get numbers, bang, etc. then go back to the original girl and chat with her, see how your disposition changes.

The very fact is this: if you can walk away from a girl who you find cute after being rejected, text another girl and be getting blown within an hour... whether it's true or you feel this way... you'll probably not be getting too invested in a single girl.

I think that's essentially a long winded way of saying "get your inner game (game-jargon), frame, mindset, alpha, abundance, bleh bleh bleh" sorted when dealing with girls. Though this really reinforces the fact that there are very practical ways of doing it, as described in a lot of the seduction literature.

I don't necessarily mean fuck girls over, hurting them being some uber manwhore or whatever. Sure if you wanna just run through girls like they're skittles ... well your call.

You want to be king, be a king. not Grima :D

N.B. - If you get the point, fuck the grammar.