Tinder has given me 3 #'s...0 dates. Help please.

Live-LoveMatt · 2014-06-22T19:52:27+00:00

There is literally no emotional investment happening in any of your messages. This combined with your desire to meet is coming across as super needy.

Meeting a guy is a large investment of time and energy, a girl needs to know that she's going to get along with you before she considers that.

If you're a man of value, then your time is valuable, so you will have standards and values to screen against before you decide to meet with a girl. You should be screening her against those, asking her what she likes and what her opinions are on certain things. Figuring out if YOU want to invest time in HER. The fact that you're not screening her and connecting on common interests is implying to her that you want to meet regardless of knowing who she is. And a guy only wants to do that because he's horny and desperate. That comes across as super needy and turns her off.

In all of my tinder conversations I talk about common interests, I ask her what her favourite things are, I figure out if I would enjoy HER time. NOT the other way around. When I figure out that I really like a girl and she's worth my time, I arrange to meet, and guess what? They never flake, because they feel like I actually chose them for who they are. (which I did)

kingjerksupreme · 2014-06-22T20:59:35+00:00

Come on dude...Text/phone game >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> You're coming across uninteresting & needy… You should be busy working, going to school, lifting, improving yourself, & meeting other girls. But you're just hounding these girls for a date & bending over backwards to meet them. Get to reading, son.

SinSlayer · 2014-06-22T19:27:52+00:00

Your problem is you're not calling. A woman doesn't give you her number so she can type on a screen. She wants to TALK to you. Consider this: you meey electronically. You get the means to reach out physically (I.e. verbally) yet you continue electronically. Whats the point of getting the number if you're going to dont the same thing you did on tinder? Call. Talk. Make plans to meet. Its called progression.

IntensePancakes · 2014-06-23T01:29:29+00:00

There is some good advice in this thread, and I would like to add that, in general, you should never take Tinder very seriously. Though it has the hottest girls out of any dating app, it also has the most flakes and people with no real intention of meeting up. Even if you have great texting game, the majority of your matches probably just won't work out for one reason or another. For me, tinder is a just fun way to have goofy and random conversations in your spare time. If something comes from it, great, but it's not something you should be investing a lot of time into. You'd be much better served by going out and approaching.

McPornstache · 2014-06-23T02:07:31+00:00

Ok look man, tinder is a shit show of a place. Women especially feel entitled as hell on there, or it might be my area. Either way, expect hostility, and no responses.

Keep trying and don't literally jump the gun on meeting up. Get to know the person. Ask then how they are, and what they generally like. You'll get a fee real quickly how interested the person is.

There is no trick other than trial and error. It took me a month to figure out how to convey messages over texting to people. I'm usually always meeting in person and people see the expression on my face and myself theirs.

Just keep at it, you'll find someone who wants to meet up.

In my experience, I have had a few dates from tinder. Women have ALL misrepresented themselves. Either by lying about who they are, or posting pictures of their friend or old pictures from a few years back.

I gave up on it pretty quick. I would recommend joining an activity you like doing. You'll meet better people there.

Title	Tinder has given me 3 #'s...0 dates. Help please.
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Date	June 22, 2014 7:18 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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