Tinder openers

hunterpua · 2025-10-02T12:25:51+00:00

"Do you want the good news or the bad news first?"

Or anything similar that evokes a lot of curiosity.

If you lean towards trying to be witty, charming, or funny you're just gonna be like the hundreds of other guys doing the same thing.

And even if by some miracle you somehow manage to be the most impressive out of all of them without even being aware of what they're saying, you still won't be that engaging and hold her attention that well.

Because trying to entertain women is like being a TV show. It's not that interactive and it can exist without her input. She can just sit back and be very passive while you dance for her.

Its like how people these days are on their phones while a movie is on TV, even when they say they love it.

What you wanna be is more like a video game.

Without any input from her, the game doesn't do anything.

And in fact, she hardly gets anything at all even if she is participating but not doing enough to beat the game's challenges.

That gets her much more invested in your conversation than any of the conversations she has with those hundreds of dancing monkeys.

Even people with the supposedly short attention spans of today can spend hours fully focused on a video game.

Here's an example of what that looks like.

Notice how I'm not funny or particularly witty at all for 90% of the conversation. Its only in one message where I make a joke about cheating that I'm being a bit funny.

Also notice how its mostly just challenging and screening her, even the date itself is framed as a way to screen her.

So if you go with the opener I gave you in the beginning, the bad news should always be a challenge.

So if she asks for the good news first you can say, "I really like your eyes but I'm not sure you're actually as fun as your photos make it look."

And please don't just rip that line off. I came up with that just now and unlike the opener, it won't always be relevant, because the girl you message might have boring ass photos.

Copy the openers, that's fine but take the time to really understand the concept I've explained here so you can come up with your own, more relevant stuff that makes her feel less like she's sitting through a performance and more like she's playing a video game.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-10-02T05:47:09+00:00

Longer openers do better than shorter ones.

Make it personal to her profile. - so that means unless you tell us what's on her profile and pics - we can't help you make the best opener

NaturalSelectionNine · 2025-10-02T07:11:53+00:00

I won't give you any lines because you can find tons online. Instead I'd give you the principles and systems to keep in mind that will help you be creative and curate your own texts that actually get you results.

You must stand out with your opening text, so you must accuse her. How do you accuse her such that its playful but at the same time -ve enough to get a reaction out of her? Push-pull, i.e., you saying a statement that has both +ve & -ve elements to it.

Now you can take this a step further by trying to curate a mini story about her. You can begin with assumptions. and then try to add flavours to it, i.e., colors, sound, emotions, etc.

For example: You've eyes of a nice witch. Who dresses in black to scare people away and deep down may love to experience interesting emotions of adventure, love and fun... ;)

justmots · 2025-10-02T13:29:15+00:00

Honestly I get more responses just saying HI [name] than any of that nonsense. I've tried it all and the only one size fits all solution is those 2 opening words. Don't overcomplicate it. If they respond back than you can try that if you want, but I wouldn't bother opening with so much effort. It's imo a waste of time and energy. Most people on there are bots anyway.

blackwolf2997 · 2025-10-02T14:21:11+00:00

It doesn’t matter, if she likes your profile she’s gonna answer even to a ‘hey’

Title	Tinder openers
Author	Severe-Doughnut4065
Upvotes	9
Comments	14
Date	October 2, 2025 5:17 AM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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