Hey Seddit, I usually post my FR's in a google doc and keep for myself as a running log for self-improvement but I wanted some other input on this night.
So my wing (we'll call him Batwing) and I have been going out every weekend for a couple of months and last night was the end of the semester so the bars were packed. I have been on a string of dance/makeout pulls lately but have been trying to figure out a way to pull home. Usually my encounters end with the girl being pulled away by her friends or saying she has a ride home or me just losing the girl in the crowd. I read on here somewhere about logistics which I never really thought about until recently. So before going out I cleaned up my place, bought a bottle of wine, and some snacks so that if i did pull home I would be prepared (also learned about this on seddit).
So Batwing and I go out, and I actually had a girl lined up from a couple of weekends ago to meet up with at a bar later (Name: Jen). This girl was the girl I was going to try to pull home. So for the early part of the night, I'm being ballsy as hell and talking to every chick with the mentality that if I fail, I have a backup plan waiting for me at this other bar.
I have a friend who has a girlfriend and harmlessly flirts with chicks for fun (never does anything considered cheating) but tells me its way easier when there are no expectations and you just enjoy yourself. I took his advice and didn't care about the outcome of these encounters and enjoyed myself. After meeting a few chicks and getting a couple of numbers, Batwing and I move to the last bar on the setlist. On the way there we lose eachother. Batwing runs into some bros and chats for awhile and I go on to look for Jen. I find her with some of her friends and walk to the last bar. As we get there the bouncer does the thing where he lets all the chicks in a group in and makes the dudes wait (shits annoying but rules is rules) and I end up losing Jen for about 20 minutes because of it, precious time. So once I finally find Jen again we're on the dancefloor and I'm not really feeling it anymore. I understand we're in a sweaty gross environment they call the dancefloor, but her smell just turned me off. On top of that, she said she had to help her drunk friend home so I didn't give her any resistance and happily said bye to her.
At this point I'm a bit disappointed and was expecting to take a girl home that night when I get a text from Batwing to head to the after-hours pizza spot everyone goes to. I get there, we eat and meet this whole random group of people who are all walking to a part of town close to where we live. I'm drunk and tired (about 2am at this point) and about to call a cab when Batwing insists we hang out with these people. It's about 6 dudes and 2 chicks (HB7-Nora & HB8-Brynn). In my head, I'm like, dude the odds of us getting it in with these two chicks who are with all these guys already is so low but fuck it. We'll see where this leads.
So we get to some random ass apartment across the street from my place and play drinking games/rap battle until about 5am. The whole time I'm talking to Brynn. Turns out I kind've recognized her and she works at my local grocery store. I had noticed her working there before and had always been too afraid to strike up conversation but always thought she was cute. I felt like she was way out of my league (I'm starting to learn to never think like this). Also, for much of this night I just want to go home so I keep hinting at Batwing that we should go but at the same time trying to get the two girls to come with us (mentioning how we have a hottub/pool, comfy ass couches, Netflix with surround sound); I was just pulling excuses out of thin air but nothing was working. I tell Brynn if she needed a ride home I could drive her as well. Closer to 6am, Nora tells Brynn that shes going home and she could take her home too. At that point I'm feeling like Brynn isn't coming back with me and I'm ready to jump into my clean well made bed all by my damn self when Brynn says that I had offered her a ride and that I can take her home. Holy shit. Okay.
So Batwing gives me the behind the back fist bump and I walk Brynn to my car. As we're driving to her place she tells me how I'm super sweet and she usually goes for asshole and straightforward kind've guys. I then tell her that you don't have to be an asshole to be straightforward and I tell her that before I drop her off I expect a kiss. She laughs but as soon as we get to her apartment, I grab her by the chin (a move I'm learning is instead of just going in for the kiss, go for the kiss as you gently grab the chin/side of girls face, idk it feels more intimate) and we kiss. Then we makeout for a bit before she stops me and says "would you like to come in?" HOLYSHITBRUH. So I nervously do a shitty parking job and walk up with her to her apartment. We get inside, turns out her roommates are all gone and we do the kiss/stumble onto her bed. She gets fully naked and I instantly feel inadequate. This girl was hot as shit and I'm just regular joe. We have sex but heres the thing, I stop maybe two minutes into it. I was still a bit tipsy (I know I drove but my dick was still drunk, my head wasn't) and I felt like my performance was severely hindered. I was only rockin half chub and I was exhausted as fuck. So I asked her if we could just chill and try again later when I've had some sleep. She actually seems smitten. She says guys never usually want to stay and cuddle and that I was so sweet, blah blah blah. Honestly I was just tired and didn't feel up to a full course of sex. After that, we fell asleep for a couple of hours, I wake up and leave around 10am in walk-of-shame fashion. I've been texting her trying to set up round 2 but shes super busy and I'm questioning whether shes into it or not.
My questions is: Did I fuck up? Should I have just popped a viagra and just finished the deed (half-kidding)? I'm starting to not-give-a-fuck as much these days and live with an abundance mentality where an encounter like this should happen all the time, so don't sweat it, right? My life is in a state of transition (in terms of location) so I'm not looking to date this girl but I would for sure be down to clown a few times before I leave. Let me know, seddit.
Oh, to add some value to this post here are some things I learned/used that really helped this night.
Figuring out logistics: How/when are you getting home? Where do you live? I wasn't directly asking these questions but just slowly figuring it out and figuring out where do you fit into the equation. Numbers Game: I struck out with my original plan (Jen) but kept working at it and just meeting as many girls as I could. When you keep working at it, shit happens.
Need to work on: Not drinking so goddamn much, but peer pressure and friends ordering shots is a sonofabitch.
Edit: Words
Edit 2: To add to the story. I did go down on her til climax before sex. Also left in the morning because I had to run home and shower before work. Just texted the chick and she seems to want to leave it at a one night stand and there's another guy she's really into that shes talking to so guess i gotta keep it moving along. Thanks for the input guys!
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